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I met this guy last year whilst he was on a study abroad. I'm at uni and was in my second year when i met him. I met him first through a social for a charity event we was both part of. Then we met up regularly like, I would go to his flat and we'd just chill and talk. We also saw each other during rehearsals. I was always quite quiet around him, like I am a naturally quiet person but I couldn't talk to him like I can talk to my friends and I know it cos I liked him. Anyway, after a few months of just seeing each other we ended up having sex. I know he kinda waited till I was comfortable around him. But it was like I ended up feeling like he was using me e.g. Coming to see me just for sex and less talk and conversation like there was before.
So I stopped seeing him but then before he left England, we had sex which felt like a one night stand but with someone I knew. I felt disgusting after it but I knew I was doing it at the time because I really liked him and was sexually attracted to him.
Anyway, now im in third year so nearly a year later (now) he's come back to England to visit. We kind of kept in touch on Facebook but we didn't really have proper conversations just like 'you ok, yh u'.. He got in touch at about 1am and asked to come round, so I let him (knowing he obvs wanted sex) cos I wanted to see him. And I couldn't help but feel so nervous when I first saw him... Like he was trying to have a conversation with me and I was like giving quite short responses and I did tell him I felt nervous and he tried to reassure not to. So we ended up having sex, and it was nice cos he said he had missed me. Then we cuddled and fell asleep and it felt good. Then he woke me up about 5am for sex, and about 10mins after it he left my flat. And I felt so upset that he just left.. like he did say bye and everything but he didn't even stay for breakfast lol (which he had done in the past)... i know it sounds a bit silly and maybe not a big deal but I felt like crying. but i didn't say anything to him, i just acted like i was fine with it.
Anyway I've told him that I felt upset that he just left after sex and he's not replied to my message. I know he's only in England now till next week and when he left he said he'd see me again. But I feel like I want him to know how I feel about him but I'm not sure if there's any point. I still really like him even though I'm angry and hurt because I feel used. I know I'm not anything special to him like I'm not his girlfriend but I just hope he respects me.. I know my actions might make him feel like he shouldn't. But to me it feels like a bid deal as I've not had casual sex with any other guy.. He's the second guy I've slept with, and the first guy was my ex boyfriend. I wondering whether I'm just feel infatuated by the sex and the intimacy of it.
Any advice would be great! Thanks
I met this guy last year whilst he was on a study abroad. I'm at uni and was in my second year when i met him. I met him first through a social for a charity event we was both part of. Then we met up regularly like, I would go to his flat and we'd just chill and talk. We also saw each other during rehearsals. I was always quite quiet around him, like I am a naturally quiet person but I couldn't talk to him like I can talk to my friends and I know it cos I liked him. Anyway, after a few months of just seeing each other we ended up having sex. I know he kinda waited till I was comfortable around him. But it was like I ended up feeling like he was using me e.g. Coming to see me just for sex and less talk and conversation like there was before.
So I stopped seeing him but then before he left England, we had sex which felt like a one night stand but with someone I knew. I felt disgusting after it but I knew I was doing it at the time because I really liked him and was sexually attracted to him.
Anyway, now im in third year so nearly a year later (now) he's come back to England to visit. We kind of kept in touch on Facebook but we didn't really have proper conversations just like 'you ok, yh u'.. He got in touch at about 1am and asked to come round, so I let him (knowing he obvs wanted sex) cos I wanted to see him. And I couldn't help but feel so nervous when I first saw him... Like he was trying to have a conversation with me and I was like giving quite short responses and I did tell him I felt nervous and he tried to reassure not to. So we ended up having sex, and it was nice cos he said he had missed me. Then we cuddled and fell asleep and it felt good. Then he woke me up about 5am for sex, and about 10mins after it he left my flat. And I felt so upset that he just left.. like he did say bye and everything but he didn't even stay for breakfast lol (which he had done in the past)... i know it sounds a bit silly and maybe not a big deal but I felt like crying. but i didn't say anything to him, i just acted like i was fine with it.
Anyway I've told him that I felt upset that he just left after sex and he's not replied to my message. I know he's only in England now till next week and when he left he said he'd see me again. But I feel like I want him to know how I feel about him but I'm not sure if there's any point. I still really like him even though I'm angry and hurt because I feel used. I know I'm not anything special to him like I'm not his girlfriend but I just hope he respects me.. I know my actions might make him feel like he shouldn't. But to me it feels like a bid deal as I've not had casual sex with any other guy.. He's the second guy I've slept with, and the first guy was my ex boyfriend. I wondering whether I'm just feel infatuated by the sex and the intimacy of it.
Any advice would be great! Thanks
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