I loved her with all my heart, lost my virginity to her (vice-versa) and did everything for her. I am intelligent, fairly sporty, good looking, funny, I don't think I will be struggling to get another girl.
She wasn't the most spectacular looking, and because I fell in love with her (after being best friends for like 12 months), I saw past her looks.
However, her parents always had reservations about my race and would constantly flag it up, dissuade her in subtle ways, 'he's nice but he's not the one, right?' Anyway, she was too stupid to see past the normative control and eventually gave in and broke up with me owing to race, even if she fails to admit it. She said stuff like 'If you weren't Indian, it would be fine'. 'I am worried about how society will accept us.' 'My mother says that marriage won't work as mixed race marriages don't work.' This is blatant racism and anyway in the 21st century can see this.
It was all fine until a few Sundays ago when going home she asked her dad what they thought of me, and he said race was an issue. When she broke up, (within a few days thereafter) she said it was because I was too controlling. Indeed, I had reservations about the amount she drinks and the career she wanted to pursue. I am a non-drinker and drinking excessively in my family would be a problem. As we were talking about marriage (we were that in love, kids too), I sort of said this is how it will be and made her make promises like not drinking over the NHS limit (which she made, didn't have to, I was looking out for health too), and she never flagged it up to be a serious problem until recently. Even then, I said, OK these don't matter that much, I love you, I can see past it but she made her decision and stuck to it.
She keeps messaging me like seeing how I am and things, I still love her but just want to get over her. I accept I was a bit controlling but there was a distinct lack of communication on her part. In fact, me being decisive was one of the things that attracted her to me.They weren't big issues if she sat down to speak about them than just end it.
What should I do? Should I just ignore her? I don't think I deserve to be treated like this.
She wasn't the most spectacular looking, and because I fell in love with her (after being best friends for like 12 months), I saw past her looks.
However, her parents always had reservations about my race and would constantly flag it up, dissuade her in subtle ways, 'he's nice but he's not the one, right?' Anyway, she was too stupid to see past the normative control and eventually gave in and broke up with me owing to race, even if she fails to admit it. She said stuff like 'If you weren't Indian, it would be fine'. 'I am worried about how society will accept us.' 'My mother says that marriage won't work as mixed race marriages don't work.' This is blatant racism and anyway in the 21st century can see this.
It was all fine until a few Sundays ago when going home she asked her dad what they thought of me, and he said race was an issue. When she broke up, (within a few days thereafter) she said it was because I was too controlling. Indeed, I had reservations about the amount she drinks and the career she wanted to pursue. I am a non-drinker and drinking excessively in my family would be a problem. As we were talking about marriage (we were that in love, kids too), I sort of said this is how it will be and made her make promises like not drinking over the NHS limit (which she made, didn't have to, I was looking out for health too), and she never flagged it up to be a serious problem until recently. Even then, I said, OK these don't matter that much, I love you, I can see past it but she made her decision and stuck to it.
She keeps messaging me like seeing how I am and things, I still love her but just want to get over her. I accept I was a bit controlling but there was a distinct lack of communication on her part. In fact, me being decisive was one of the things that attracted her to me.They weren't big issues if she sat down to speak about them than just end it.
What should I do? Should I just ignore her? I don't think I deserve to be treated like this.
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