Hey everyone this is my very first online post so please bear with me and my mistakes. Anyways, I am very much needing some experienced marital advice. My wife and i have been married for 6 years and have been together for 10. We are a mixed family of 7 with both of us bringing children into the marriage and also having two together. It has been a rocky road but we do love each other very much. We seem to have the same type of fights about similar things that never really seem to go away. I am a somewhat reclusive person that thoroughly enjoys being at home with my family for 99.9% of my free time. Our kids range on age from high school down to kindergarten so we are a very busy family, thats why when i get the chance to stay home and just hang out with the kids thats exactly what i do. Therein lies a problem. My wife is way more outgoing than i am and wants to be more social than i do. Recently she has expressed wanting to go out more and have a couple d rinks. I opt out because i cannot stand the bar scene. Like i literally hate it. But i dont want to control her in any way so I tell her to go ahead and go without me. I then start to struggle with insecurities and it gets the best of me which usually leads to us fighting. i really want to give her the space and individuality that she wants but i also dont want to be alone in my marriage. I worry about her when she goes out because the bar scene her is full of drunk a-holes and other shady people. She doesnt seem to mind them, but i do. In no way am i implying that she wants to be a bar ***** but she definitely want to frequent the bar more often. I am struggling with this to be honest. I do trust her and dont worry that she may do something to threaten our marriage but that doesnt really help me feel better about her going out. I feel like my issues with the socializing are holding her back from doing some of the things she wants to do and that creates resentment in our mar riage. Should i be ok with her going out as much as she wants to? Is it controlling to tell her that i would rather her stay with me instead of going out? We are both beyond tired of arguing about this issue. Any opinions are welcome. Thanks
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