So, happily married for a long time, but things start to change as kids grow up and out and values change.
Anyone a empty nester or close? This isn't something that blind sided us we have always known and joked "How did we get married?" "We are so different?" She loves the beach I hate the sun, she loves being social I prefer one on one and more intellectual times, she likes friendly banter I like topic based debate, I like crude humor she likes more 50's wit and slapstick, I love music she keeps it on one station, etc etc etc.
The kids, our life revolving around them, our date nights, and the hustle and bustle always kept things good and in check.
The problem now is kids are getting older, so we have more freedom etc. When I think of our life, I think of freaky sex romps all weekend, weekend getaways, and doing new things we didn't do due to the kiddos.
While she isn't in disagreement she is becoming super involved in church. Teaching, volunteering, and some mission work which mentally messes with my weekend sex romp mentality lol. The more she talks about helping, volunteering, and making a impact the less I can look at her and think of those crazy nights.
The 2nd piece is a promotion at work has her with a few peers who are ultra extroverted life of the party types. I am very good in small groups or one on one, but don't like big groups, parties, and being the life of the party. My wife always has been that type of person though and this is a new chapter for her actually being around people and having the free time to be that type of person. She just never had friends that fit that bill and with kids it was always hard to have a healthy social life and career.
I just wonder what it will be like when the kids are finally gone. We are still "fine", but can I see us gravitating toward different things as life goes by. I wonder if we will be that happy couple or our differences that were masked by being parents for so long will finally be too much to overlook. Will we amicably choose to go our separate ways or just become cohabitators?
Anyone else empty nest or have life changes that caused the marriage future to seem rocky? We are fine now and I look forward to a night of fun tomorrow, but just posting what I see and wondering what the future holds that's all.
Anyone a empty nester or close? This isn't something that blind sided us we have always known and joked "How did we get married?" "We are so different?" She loves the beach I hate the sun, she loves being social I prefer one on one and more intellectual times, she likes friendly banter I like topic based debate, I like crude humor she likes more 50's wit and slapstick, I love music she keeps it on one station, etc etc etc.
The kids, our life revolving around them, our date nights, and the hustle and bustle always kept things good and in check.
The problem now is kids are getting older, so we have more freedom etc. When I think of our life, I think of freaky sex romps all weekend, weekend getaways, and doing new things we didn't do due to the kiddos.
While she isn't in disagreement she is becoming super involved in church. Teaching, volunteering, and some mission work which mentally messes with my weekend sex romp mentality lol. The more she talks about helping, volunteering, and making a impact the less I can look at her and think of those crazy nights.
The 2nd piece is a promotion at work has her with a few peers who are ultra extroverted life of the party types. I am very good in small groups or one on one, but don't like big groups, parties, and being the life of the party. My wife always has been that type of person though and this is a new chapter for her actually being around people and having the free time to be that type of person. She just never had friends that fit that bill and with kids it was always hard to have a healthy social life and career.
I just wonder what it will be like when the kids are finally gone. We are still "fine", but can I see us gravitating toward different things as life goes by. I wonder if we will be that happy couple or our differences that were masked by being parents for so long will finally be too much to overlook. Will we amicably choose to go our separate ways or just become cohabitators?
Anyone else empty nest or have life changes that caused the marriage future to seem rocky? We are fine now and I look forward to a night of fun tomorrow, but just posting what I see and wondering what the future holds that's all.
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