So I feel stupid even bringing this up, but it is really starting to affect me. Especially now that its the summer. Ok, I love my husband. He is an awesome, amazing, wonderful man, and I know how lucky I am to have him. He is the best thing that ever happened to me. And the thing is, I *know* he feels the same about me. Yeah sure, neither of us are perfect, but who is?
The thing is, my husband actually *likes* going clothes shopping with me, and picking things out for me. The problem is... I am 35. And the clothes my husband picks out are things that would only look good on a 19 year old.
But its also stuff that's just not "me", that arent my style, that I'm not comfortable in. For example, shorts--I hate shorts! They're just sooo uncomfortable to me, and he is always bugging me to try them on. Or tube tops. Let me tell you, they only look good when airbrushing is invloved!
I try to take it as a compliment, that he thinks I would look good in these types of things. (He loves my legs and ...upper parts. And I love that he loves them!) And yes, I take care of myself, go to the gym reguarly, yoga 4-5 days a week, etc etc. So Im still in shape.
But still... I'm 35, and a *human*. So I'm not perfect, nor will I ever look 19 again.
And for the most part I'm ok with that. I dont *want* to have look 19 again, I want to just enjoy being *me*, as I am. But the things my husband picks out for me, that he wants me to wear.... start to make me wonder if *he* will be ok with that? If *he* will be able to handle my getting older? Because the things he picks out for me... its like he's picking them out for the 19 year old porn star in his head. He picks out things I *know* wont look good on me... And no, I dont want to try them on and prove that fact to him! Its a no-win situation, because of *course* I dont want to try on shorts for him to *prove* that I dont look good in them. No! Why would I want to do that? LOL! Of course I want him to think my legs look good, not "prove" that they look...not good, lol.
In my heart, I *know* he doesnt "mean" it like that. I know he loves me and loves the way I look. (I think...I hope.) But at the same time, it really starts to make me angry, because I feel like he's holding me up to some impossible standard of never aging/ always being a size 2/ etc. And its worse in the summer, of course.
So what do I do about this? I dont want to make my husband feel bad about it, because I know his intention isnt to make me feel bad. But it really *is* starting to make me feel bad about myself. So how do I handle this?
The thing is, my husband actually *likes* going clothes shopping with me, and picking things out for me. The problem is... I am 35. And the clothes my husband picks out are things that would only look good on a 19 year old.
But its also stuff that's just not "me", that arent my style, that I'm not comfortable in. For example, shorts--I hate shorts! They're just sooo uncomfortable to me, and he is always bugging me to try them on. Or tube tops. Let me tell you, they only look good when airbrushing is invloved!
I try to take it as a compliment, that he thinks I would look good in these types of things. (He loves my legs and ...upper parts. And I love that he loves them!) And yes, I take care of myself, go to the gym reguarly, yoga 4-5 days a week, etc etc. So Im still in shape.
But still... I'm 35, and a *human*. So I'm not perfect, nor will I ever look 19 again.
And for the most part I'm ok with that. I dont *want* to have look 19 again, I want to just enjoy being *me*, as I am. But the things my husband picks out for me, that he wants me to wear.... start to make me wonder if *he* will be ok with that? If *he* will be able to handle my getting older? Because the things he picks out for me... its like he's picking them out for the 19 year old porn star in his head. He picks out things I *know* wont look good on me... And no, I dont want to try them on and prove that fact to him! Its a no-win situation, because of *course* I dont want to try on shorts for him to *prove* that I dont look good in them. No! Why would I want to do that? LOL! Of course I want him to think my legs look good, not "prove" that they look...not good, lol.
In my heart, I *know* he doesnt "mean" it like that. I know he loves me and loves the way I look. (I think...I hope.) But at the same time, it really starts to make me angry, because I feel like he's holding me up to some impossible standard of never aging/ always being a size 2/ etc. And its worse in the summer, of course.
So what do I do about this? I dont want to make my husband feel bad about it, because I know his intention isnt to make me feel bad. But it really *is* starting to make me feel bad about myself. So how do I handle this?
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