ATTN... Long & possibly triggering post
Hi. This is my first post here and I'm in such turmoil because about 8 years ago, I learned that my husband has had a porn/sex addiction and I accidentally found groups he had joined online and IRL, as well. He also tried to tell me he wanted to have an open marriage but that's another story.... But long story short, not only is he still trolling for women online and skyping with them, he ultimately involved me (unwillingly) in his sick world and that not only ruined me, but our marriage.
He has promised to get help over the years but hasn't. If it weren't for having three kids, I would be gone. But he is manipulative and just refuses to do anything with a divorce.
I know I can just get one but idk if it's worth the fight anymore. I already don't recognize him as my husband. But it's hard to date because I have kids and try not to let them see me go out so I get ready after they go to bed.
I have been dating for a few years now and my husband doesn't like it but still refuses to sign divorce papers or recognize a court date. I know I can force it but I don't want to drag my kids through mud and we already live separate lives.
He thinks as long as he is nice to me, I should forget everything and move on but I did not want sex with those other ppl and was literally ra*ed with my husband calling the shots and choosing the guys.
I have nightmares and flashbacks and am not sure I can handle a divorce should he make it messy. And yes, this is the short version. Idk if I should stay and keep going like I've been or bite the bullet and go through a possible blood bath of a divorce. I don't even understand why he would rather stay married. Again. Sorry so long. Help?
Hi. This is my first post here and I'm in such turmoil because about 8 years ago, I learned that my husband has had a porn/sex addiction and I accidentally found groups he had joined online and IRL, as well. He also tried to tell me he wanted to have an open marriage but that's another story.... But long story short, not only is he still trolling for women online and skyping with them, he ultimately involved me (unwillingly) in his sick world and that not only ruined me, but our marriage.
He has promised to get help over the years but hasn't. If it weren't for having three kids, I would be gone. But he is manipulative and just refuses to do anything with a divorce.
I know I can just get one but idk if it's worth the fight anymore. I already don't recognize him as my husband. But it's hard to date because I have kids and try not to let them see me go out so I get ready after they go to bed.
I have been dating for a few years now and my husband doesn't like it but still refuses to sign divorce papers or recognize a court date. I know I can force it but I don't want to drag my kids through mud and we already live separate lives.
He thinks as long as he is nice to me, I should forget everything and move on but I did not want sex with those other ppl and was literally ra*ed with my husband calling the shots and choosing the guys.
I have nightmares and flashbacks and am not sure I can handle a divorce should he make it messy. And yes, this is the short version. Idk if I should stay and keep going like I've been or bite the bullet and go through a possible blood bath of a divorce. I don't even understand why he would rather stay married. Again. Sorry so long. Help?
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