My wife and I have been married a little over two years. I've been in her life for a little over three years. My wife has a daughter from a previous relationship. The daughter thinks of me as her father. My wife had a short term relationship with the father and got pregnant. After she got pregnant he didn't want to have anything to do with her or the baby. If you heard my wife tell the story "he kicked them to the curb." When the baby was born he came to the hospital but never offered any financial support for the baby. The only contact would be in the middle of the night when he was drunk and he wanted companionship from my wife. At one point before I met her she was struggling financially and tried to collect child support. The father received a letter in the mail that wanted him to submit to a paternity test. He contacted my wife and said instead of going through the process of making it official, why on the just give her some mo eu each mont h. She told him to keep it, if he didn't want to officially claim his child... They didn't need him. I came into their lives shortly after and took on the role as Dad. I have embraced her as my own and love her like my own. Actually giving her more attention then I give my own two. When talking about the father with my wife it's always been touchy. She has proclaimed she hated him for rejecting her and the baby. I can understand why. Earlier this week, the father took his own life. My wife called me crying. I tried to be supportive and strong for her. Then she reached out to his friends for details. Then we became friends with his friends on our mutual Facebook page. I started seeing these tributes to this guy from his friends. I struggled with them bc they make him out to be this great family guy. Then my wife started liking the post. And I noticed her feelings changing towards him. The only sadness I feel is for my daughter. Bc she will never have the opportunity to meet h er birth father. My wife is saddened for him and is mourning Bc she now tells me she has feelings for him. She is saddened for him Bc he felt alone when he died. I feel like he made choices in his life which led to that including abandoning her and her child. I feel betrayed by this Bc she talks to me like I'm the bad guy in all of this. This guy was not a good person. He turned his back on his child and my wife and treated her badly. I'm hurt Bc I'm the one who stepped up to be a Dad and love them.
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