So we have been married for nearly 20 years...with one child. Both married only once. I have never been unfaithful to my wife...ever.
The last 6-7 years have been rough...new child (one and only). I am the sole breadwinner and travel weekly. Over the last few years my wife has gotten chronic with texting. First thing in the morning last thing at night. Several things prior to this have caused my trust in her to come into question...making me suspicious. At times I will ask, (as she does with me...but my phone communications are hobby/work) about who's texting etc. She says its such and such...blah blah. Ok got it. But its so much all through the day and when we get into bed...it has just been so irritating. So feeling really uneasy about things, I started viewing some of the texts. Over the last several months, I have read some appalling things being shared about our marriage, sex life and other personal items with her girlfriends. No texting to men. She makes sure to have messages deleted as soon as possible as she doesn't want me to find them. I am at a crossroads now. She doesn't know I know. However som ething has to be done.
I am sleeping on the couch most of the time when I am home and gone during the week for work. I am completely miserable. I have made some creative statements to her about what I see in the texts and tried to address the issue without tipping my hand that I am reading her texts. I really want to confront her on all of this but she would then know I was reading up on her texts. If we did not have a child, I would probably leave for a while.
I am lost.
The last 6-7 years have been rough...new child (one and only). I am the sole breadwinner and travel weekly. Over the last few years my wife has gotten chronic with texting. First thing in the morning last thing at night. Several things prior to this have caused my trust in her to come into question...making me suspicious. At times I will ask, (as she does with me...but my phone communications are hobby/work) about who's texting etc. She says its such and such...blah blah. Ok got it. But its so much all through the day and when we get into bed...it has just been so irritating. So feeling really uneasy about things, I started viewing some of the texts. Over the last several months, I have read some appalling things being shared about our marriage, sex life and other personal items with her girlfriends. No texting to men. She makes sure to have messages deleted as soon as possible as she doesn't want me to find them. I am at a crossroads now. She doesn't know I know. However som ething has to be done.
I am sleeping on the couch most of the time when I am home and gone during the week for work. I am completely miserable. I have made some creative statements to her about what I see in the texts and tried to address the issue without tipping my hand that I am reading her texts. I really want to confront her on all of this but she would then know I was reading up on her texts. If we did not have a child, I would probably leave for a while.
I am lost.
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