Hello. Without going into too much detail, my relationship with my in-laws is strained. It's been this way for a few years. My husband and I reconciled after a brief separation around the first of the year. My parents have welcomed my husband back into their lives. They are of the opinion that's it my life and my husband and children are part of it. My husband's parents and sister, on the other hand, are not as understanding. My husband has gotten in the habit of bringing our children to see his parents, sister and cousins without me. After coming back together, we had been on the road to reconciliation, we even met at a local park. This all changed about 2 months ago. My husbands mother who worked at a bank for 20 years was terminated due to a breach of security. Apparently, she put stop payments on my husbands bank account while he and I were separated. My husband left our home and felt he shouldn't have to pay the marital home expenses since he was liv ing with his family. His mother went into his account and made sure the marital home expenses were not paid. As a result of his mother's actions, she and another employee were fired for breaking the bank's code of ethics.
I feel I'm being blamed for her actions. My husband just would like to continue on without me seeing his family. He wants our children to see them, but without me. The other night I finally put my foot down after he informed me he'd be bringing the children again to his parents house, while I would stay home. I told him that moving forward, we'd all have to be welcome. After all, we are a family. My children are now asking me why I never see their grandparents. We are in marital therapy and the therapist is urging my husband to discuss reconciliation with his parents. It seems my husband just wants to continue with the current setup indefinitely. His parents have such a strong influence over him. I don't want to make him choose, but I feel we're heading in that direction unless something changes.
Should I make him choose?
Thanks.
I feel I'm being blamed for her actions. My husband just would like to continue on without me seeing his family. He wants our children to see them, but without me. The other night I finally put my foot down after he informed me he'd be bringing the children again to his parents house, while I would stay home. I told him that moving forward, we'd all have to be welcome. After all, we are a family. My children are now asking me why I never see their grandparents. We are in marital therapy and the therapist is urging my husband to discuss reconciliation with his parents. It seems my husband just wants to continue with the current setup indefinitely. His parents have such a strong influence over him. I don't want to make him choose, but I feel we're heading in that direction unless something changes.
Should I make him choose?
Thanks.
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment