Sorry the rant/long post but I have no one to talk to....
.....Don't even know where to start... ASHAMED...
My wife and I have been married for just over a year. I am 34 and she is 33, she has been married before and has 2 children from that marriage (which ex-husband had multiple affairs and disappeared during both pregnancies), I was married before but unfortunately my first wife suffered from bi-polar disorder and was diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic and took her own life.
My wife and I grew up together and were childhood sweethearts before my parents split and I moved away with my dad, after my first wife passed away, I began searching for comfort in drugs, and went way off the deep end for a while(along came my childhood sweetheart) and "wala" I had a purpose again.
We were dating long distance wise and I was flying to see her about every 8 days, she was living with her mother at the time along with her 2 children. Her Mom was at one point best friends with my mom but that relationship dwindled some 12-15 years ago.
My wife is a Pharmacy Tech at CVS, and I am an Operations Manager for my family's business. I work 8-5 she of course works retail hours.
In the beginning her mother really encouraged us to be together and thought things were great, although she could never get past the fact that I was 33 at the time and I drove a Porsche and made a very good salary with my job and could afford to fly from AL to SC every week, the more I went to see her the less I used drugs to get by. It was great, and the closer we got the more her mother began to HATE me.
She accused me of murdering my first wife, talked my wifes ex-husband into suing us for custody and testifying against my wife to take her kids from us.
CRAP.... I am scattering this story out...
We eventually got engaged, and were continuing to do the long distance thing as things with her mother grew worse I decided to take a pay cut, give up my Porsche and move to SC so that we could be closer and keep her from having to go through a lawsuit, well as soon as I hit the state line the ex-husband started his first lawsuit about the children spending the night at the same house as me... (HIRED LAWYER)... He advised that since we had planned on getting married anyway to go to the courthouse and get married and that would snub this in the bud...NOT. GOT MARRIED and then the custody battle began... I dropped 12k dollars into a lawyer to handle this situation... a year passes and after GAL's and all the hearings we finally have a final court date.
We go to court and her mother and sisters show up to testify for the ex-husband and to take her kids from her which we kicked the ARSE in court with emails, text messages and recordings that proved they were lying to destroy our marriage because I was too successful for her and that I would ultimately want to move back to AL and she would leave with the kids.
Well, we kicked exhusbands ARSE as well, so bad that he stood up in the court room and said "I CONCEDE CUSTODY" so my wife, our attorney, ex-husband and his attorney along with the GAL's attorney go into a closed room to negotiate the terms of the settlement....
Well, he gives up and my wife grants him, reduced child support payments, more visitation weekends(which his parents exercise, he doesn't see them) and all kinds of other crap. He continuously violates the court orders and we have filed all the motions for contempt with no luck and my wife just doesn't care to deal with it.
I recently moved back to AL because my uncle became very ill and I had to come run the company, back to the long distance thing...
I find out that since I have been gone my wife received about 4k dollars from old insurance policies and blew every damn bit of it...
I am so exhausted from all of this stress and axiety and I am getting no support from my wife, I was working from home and taking care of the kids while she was at work but I was/am still being accused of mistreating the kids and what not WHICH IS A LIE, I wash all the laundry, and I DON"T clean much of the house because wife said not to because she has her own of doing it,
I am torn because I doubt I have been able to accurately portray whats going on in my relationship because I am ranting, I could write 10 pages and still not get to the point...
My wife brings home about 1100 dollars a month and has 1450 dollars worth bills a month i.e.(cell phones, car payment, insurance, credit cards and what not) I pay all of my bills and all of our household bills. My wife was advised by a financial advisor to take the 4k dollars and pay off as many of her debts as she possibly could and she didn't pay a single one, she was going to walmart 3-5 times a day because she was bored. WTH?
She claims that she is a good MOM, but I am concerned that she really isn't. She has no ambition to do anything in life and puts all of the burden on me financially and parenting wise.
I am so fed up because since she gave her ex-husband so many liberties with the children we cannot effectively have a family ourselves, she can't pay for daycare and it's costing me another 644 dollars a month for that and she can't get her lawyer to do anything about child support because she beats around the bush about everything.
I FEEL LIKE I HAVE BEEN TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF AND I WAS MISLEAD!!!!!
I AM SO CONFUSED MY BY MY OWN RANT THAT I AM SITTING HERE CRYING WISHING I HAD NEVER MET HER AGAIN!!!!!!!
.....Don't even know where to start... ASHAMED...
My wife and I have been married for just over a year. I am 34 and she is 33, she has been married before and has 2 children from that marriage (which ex-husband had multiple affairs and disappeared during both pregnancies), I was married before but unfortunately my first wife suffered from bi-polar disorder and was diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic and took her own life.
My wife and I grew up together and were childhood sweethearts before my parents split and I moved away with my dad, after my first wife passed away, I began searching for comfort in drugs, and went way off the deep end for a while(along came my childhood sweetheart) and "wala" I had a purpose again.
We were dating long distance wise and I was flying to see her about every 8 days, she was living with her mother at the time along with her 2 children. Her Mom was at one point best friends with my mom but that relationship dwindled some 12-15 years ago.
My wife is a Pharmacy Tech at CVS, and I am an Operations Manager for my family's business. I work 8-5 she of course works retail hours.
In the beginning her mother really encouraged us to be together and thought things were great, although she could never get past the fact that I was 33 at the time and I drove a Porsche and made a very good salary with my job and could afford to fly from AL to SC every week, the more I went to see her the less I used drugs to get by. It was great, and the closer we got the more her mother began to HATE me.
She accused me of murdering my first wife, talked my wifes ex-husband into suing us for custody and testifying against my wife to take her kids from us.
CRAP.... I am scattering this story out...
We eventually got engaged, and were continuing to do the long distance thing as things with her mother grew worse I decided to take a pay cut, give up my Porsche and move to SC so that we could be closer and keep her from having to go through a lawsuit, well as soon as I hit the state line the ex-husband started his first lawsuit about the children spending the night at the same house as me... (HIRED LAWYER)... He advised that since we had planned on getting married anyway to go to the courthouse and get married and that would snub this in the bud...NOT. GOT MARRIED and then the custody battle began... I dropped 12k dollars into a lawyer to handle this situation... a year passes and after GAL's and all the hearings we finally have a final court date.
We go to court and her mother and sisters show up to testify for the ex-husband and to take her kids from her which we kicked the ARSE in court with emails, text messages and recordings that proved they were lying to destroy our marriage because I was too successful for her and that I would ultimately want to move back to AL and she would leave with the kids.
Well, we kicked exhusbands ARSE as well, so bad that he stood up in the court room and said "I CONCEDE CUSTODY" so my wife, our attorney, ex-husband and his attorney along with the GAL's attorney go into a closed room to negotiate the terms of the settlement....
Well, he gives up and my wife grants him, reduced child support payments, more visitation weekends(which his parents exercise, he doesn't see them) and all kinds of other crap. He continuously violates the court orders and we have filed all the motions for contempt with no luck and my wife just doesn't care to deal with it.
I recently moved back to AL because my uncle became very ill and I had to come run the company, back to the long distance thing...
I find out that since I have been gone my wife received about 4k dollars from old insurance policies and blew every damn bit of it...
I am so exhausted from all of this stress and axiety and I am getting no support from my wife, I was working from home and taking care of the kids while she was at work but I was/am still being accused of mistreating the kids and what not WHICH IS A LIE, I wash all the laundry, and I DON"T clean much of the house because wife said not to because she has her own of doing it,
I am torn because I doubt I have been able to accurately portray whats going on in my relationship because I am ranting, I could write 10 pages and still not get to the point...
My wife brings home about 1100 dollars a month and has 1450 dollars worth bills a month i.e.(cell phones, car payment, insurance, credit cards and what not) I pay all of my bills and all of our household bills. My wife was advised by a financial advisor to take the 4k dollars and pay off as many of her debts as she possibly could and she didn't pay a single one, she was going to walmart 3-5 times a day because she was bored. WTH?
She claims that she is a good MOM, but I am concerned that she really isn't. She has no ambition to do anything in life and puts all of the burden on me financially and parenting wise.
I am so fed up because since she gave her ex-husband so many liberties with the children we cannot effectively have a family ourselves, she can't pay for daycare and it's costing me another 644 dollars a month for that and she can't get her lawyer to do anything about child support because she beats around the bush about everything.
I FEEL LIKE I HAVE BEEN TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF AND I WAS MISLEAD!!!!!
I AM SO CONFUSED MY BY MY OWN RANT THAT I AM SITTING HERE CRYING WISHING I HAD NEVER MET HER AGAIN!!!!!!!
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