I've been seeing a man for almost 2 years. In the beginning of the relationship, I found out that he was still on a dating site "looking for friends". A friend of mine struck up a conversation with him on the site and he did admit he had a gf. I confronted him about it, intending to break up with him. We had a long conversation about friends of the opposite sex (honestly, I could understand opposite sex friends if it's someone you've known for a long time, maybe since you were kids, etc, but to strike up new friendships just isn't cool ya know) and we seemed to be on the same page about it. He said that our relationship was the most stable relationship he'd ever had and it was hard to break the habit of having a "back up plan" (his words)
We talked some more and I fell for it all and decided to give him another chance but be cautious. He isn't aware that I know the passcode for his phone (it's always been locked and I've never asked about it) and I've checked it periodically and there's been nothing there. (I feel terrible about being sneaky like this but don't trust him completely) Well I checked it yesterday and his browser was open to the personals on craigslist and there were a few lines of texting to someone with just a number. The texts were "hey, you up", "why aren't you texting me anymore", "I was thinking about playing" (to him that means masturbating).
I just don't understand it!! So I definitely have to break up with him now. I'm just so disappointed and upset! We've gotten along so well and my kids love him. He's been very helpful around my acreage and house.
What's my next step? Do I just break it off without an explanation? Do I fess up to checking his phone? What do I do?
We talked some more and I fell for it all and decided to give him another chance but be cautious. He isn't aware that I know the passcode for his phone (it's always been locked and I've never asked about it) and I've checked it periodically and there's been nothing there. (I feel terrible about being sneaky like this but don't trust him completely) Well I checked it yesterday and his browser was open to the personals on craigslist and there were a few lines of texting to someone with just a number. The texts were "hey, you up", "why aren't you texting me anymore", "I was thinking about playing" (to him that means masturbating).
I just don't understand it!! So I definitely have to break up with him now. I'm just so disappointed and upset! We've gotten along so well and my kids love him. He's been very helpful around my acreage and house.
What's my next step? Do I just break it off without an explanation? Do I fess up to checking his phone? What do I do?
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