Can't trust him

I met my husband in the spring of 2011 online. He was living in china and I was in the U.S., so in the fall I flew to visit him. During that visit he proposed and I said yes. I knew it would be a lengthy engagement since we lived in different parts of the world. Back then I had a facebook page and asked him to ad me to his. He gave me an excuse saying he wasn't able to due to China government blocking access. I was suspicious then, but paid it no mind. Once I arrived home he finally added me to his friends list. In December that same year I found photos with captions saying I miss my wife and kids. Then found a website which was of him and his ex's wedding ceremony. The photos showed witnesses signing the marriage certificates. When I confronted him he told me that the marriage wasn't valid because he ex never filed the paperwork. I was devastated. But later forgave him for not being honest with me. Two years go buy and I visit him again in china by this time we are legally married and have begun the process of immigration for him. He gave me access to everything, his computer and his ipad not realizing how savvy I am. Though it didn't take much snooping at all, a couple of messages from skype were open. There were messages from a woman in Botswana, then I found photos of him and another woman in bed together, traveling together, etc... I also found dating sights and messages to other women saying he wants to be their boyfriend, and there were more photos of other women that sent their private part photos. The entire two weeks of me being in china I was sick to my stomach. I married this person. He got on his knees and begged me to remain his wife telling me how much he loved me, yet he still made up stupid lies when it came down to these women and what he was to them and them to him. I went home and took a lot of time and forgave him. I knew he still wasn't right and I was on the verge of cheating several times. I explained that to him and we decided it would be best if I move to china with him, so that's what I did. I have been here for nearly 4mos and I am still finding dating sites he is on and I'm finding that he is still reaching out to strange women saying he wants to date and is looking for a long term relationship. I have had enough and want to end this, stop immigration (regardless of the money we'll both lose), and go back home to my normal life with my real family and friends. Am I making the right decision?

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