Hey folks
Need some opinions. I have a masters degree in a field where I can travel and work in many countries. My problem is I met my husband and got marriage to him before I got a chance to really have the adventure I wanted. Anyway I love him and want to make this marriage the best I can, however how do I surpress that little fire inside me that keeps saying you could have gone to Africa for a year before you got married. You could have gone to South America...
Its too late now to ask him to move. He cant leave his steady job. And he is dead against me leaving for a year. He thinks it will be detrimental to our marriage and perhaps its right. A year is a long time. Also I am looking for a job right now been a year already! So to say to him, i want to go off to africa, he would go balistic. ANyhoo we dont have kids yet. We just got marriage been about two years.
All my friends and fam say grass is greener in the other side. They say if I had gone, I would be home sick and come home fast. Or the living situation in those volunteer type settings isnt ideal and it wouldnt be all comfortable. And to be honest Im really not that sad I didnt get to have a high flying international career, its just that I wanted adventure travelling and meeting new people and experience a culture and getting work experience doing grass roots work before I got settled in one location. I kick myself for not doing it sooner and slacking off!
I need help to let things go and move on....OR do you think i should drop everything off, go for 6 months and come back and get it out of the way. My husband would be mad at me though...also 6 months isnt really enough to help me find a job back home (within the same field) as the experience isnt long enough and Im already having trouble finding a job (its been a year now Ive been searching)!
Any thoughts?
Need some opinions. I have a masters degree in a field where I can travel and work in many countries. My problem is I met my husband and got marriage to him before I got a chance to really have the adventure I wanted. Anyway I love him and want to make this marriage the best I can, however how do I surpress that little fire inside me that keeps saying you could have gone to Africa for a year before you got married. You could have gone to South America...
Its too late now to ask him to move. He cant leave his steady job. And he is dead against me leaving for a year. He thinks it will be detrimental to our marriage and perhaps its right. A year is a long time. Also I am looking for a job right now been a year already! So to say to him, i want to go off to africa, he would go balistic. ANyhoo we dont have kids yet. We just got marriage been about two years.
All my friends and fam say grass is greener in the other side. They say if I had gone, I would be home sick and come home fast. Or the living situation in those volunteer type settings isnt ideal and it wouldnt be all comfortable. And to be honest Im really not that sad I didnt get to have a high flying international career, its just that I wanted adventure travelling and meeting new people and experience a culture and getting work experience doing grass roots work before I got settled in one location. I kick myself for not doing it sooner and slacking off!
I need help to let things go and move on....OR do you think i should drop everything off, go for 6 months and come back and get it out of the way. My husband would be mad at me though...also 6 months isnt really enough to help me find a job back home (within the same field) as the experience isnt long enough and Im already having trouble finding a job (its been a year now Ive been searching)!
Any thoughts?
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