Some of you know my story and the craziness of my ex wife. She is now getting divorced for the 2nd time in two years. Pregnant with the new STBXH's baby. Plainly speaking....it's been a wild ride.
So, my 12 year old son has become quite the challenge for her in terms of getting him to help around the house. He simply has started to really resent her. In fact, we have agreed at this point that he will live with me starting at the end of July. Last week, she took offense to the fact that she and the other kids had to mow their yard and he didn't help. Last friday, at the front door, she basically told me to "handle it" because if she was going to have to "handle it", his life would be hell.
We had said discussion about it, and I gave him my expectations of him moving forward and what he should expect of himself. Well, she did NOT like what I had to say after he told her. I told him his job is 4 things....1) do your best in school/do your homework 2) spend time everyday sharpening your skills in your hobby (for him that is football) 3)keep your room clean 4) have honor in your life...do what you say your going to do....treat others how you want to be treated. Basically, she told him that I have "poisoned" his mind and turned him against her. That I was the "bad guy" and not her. AND, he better not go "tattling" to his dad about what she says because she doesn't want to hear my crap.
This is more of a vent than a look for help, BUT DANG! What in the hell is wrong with people??????? I expect this kind of stuff because it has become the norm, but at some point I just want to tell her to STFU because all she is doing is creating bad feelings in our kids!
So, my 12 year old son has become quite the challenge for her in terms of getting him to help around the house. He simply has started to really resent her. In fact, we have agreed at this point that he will live with me starting at the end of July. Last week, she took offense to the fact that she and the other kids had to mow their yard and he didn't help. Last friday, at the front door, she basically told me to "handle it" because if she was going to have to "handle it", his life would be hell.
We had said discussion about it, and I gave him my expectations of him moving forward and what he should expect of himself. Well, she did NOT like what I had to say after he told her. I told him his job is 4 things....1) do your best in school/do your homework 2) spend time everyday sharpening your skills in your hobby (for him that is football) 3)keep your room clean 4) have honor in your life...do what you say your going to do....treat others how you want to be treated. Basically, she told him that I have "poisoned" his mind and turned him against her. That I was the "bad guy" and not her. AND, he better not go "tattling" to his dad about what she says because she doesn't want to hear my crap.
This is more of a vent than a look for help, BUT DANG! What in the hell is wrong with people??????? I expect this kind of stuff because it has become the norm, but at some point I just want to tell her to STFU because all she is doing is creating bad feelings in our kids!
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