Is there hope left?

Pretty sure my husband is addicted to pornography. I've been dealing with this for over a year now, and there's little improvement. He can barely have sex without watching porn first. He can barely go a week without watching porn. If it was up to him, he would do it for hours on end, at least every other day. No amount of pouring my heart out, laying out how I feel about it, no amount of crying, fighting, or trying to control him has made him stop. He does it every chance he gets. Whether I'm taking a shower, nap, or going out with friends. He doesn't think he has a problem, or at least doesn't admit it. He sees no issue with this, and says every single guy on the planet is like that. He says he can't live without porn, that he will break sooner or later if he tries to stop, and that that's perfectly normal and healthy for every guy in this day and age. When caught, he denies denies denies everything, lies, calls me insane for assuming things that aren't there. When I know for a fact he's gaslighting me. So even though I get upset, I'm not allowed to show it without him calling me crazy and giving me silent treatment for 2 days. He's a selfish lover, he only cares about his own pleasure in bed. He's the most stubborn and assertive person I've ever known. But I never knew about the existence of this problem, let alone the extent of it, until 2 years into marriage and 6 years into the relationship. Other than his selfishness and his porn, we're a perfect match. We think the same and like all the same things, we literally finish each other's sentences. We have deep intelligent conversations and we're never bored when we're together. We feel like soulmates, and neither of us has previously connected with anyone else this way. But his porn habit is ruining the relationship, and I don't think it will ever stop. When it's not there, I'm as happy as I can be. When it is, I'm miserable. I'm in my mid twenties, he's in his thirties. H is obsession with porn turns my love for him into feeling disgusted. And there's nothing I can do to change the way I feel about it. Is there hope for people like him to change, or is this a lost cause?

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