My heart is seriously breaking as I type this. Last night my sister found out that her husband had been lying to her, she had been suspicious for awhile, I told her to watch his texts, be aware of things he says, etc. And there were many lies and inconsistencies so she finally checked the phone bill and saw that he had been texting this woman 100's of times a day and the only times the texts stopped were when he was somewhere that he said my sister couldn't go with.
He told my sister a week ago that he was thinking about leaving her, which came completely out of nowhere. He said it's because she has too much anxiety and depression and put the blame all on her (re-wrote marriage history saying he's always been unhappy, but they've been happily married for 10 years up until these past two months)
Last night she was really emotional and had come down to my house to spend the night. She wanted to drive up to his house and see if this other woman was there because she noticed that he had called her the minute she left and then there were no more texts for the next five hours.
She couldn't wait to confront him but she couldn't drive up, so she called him and told him she knows he's been lying (he said he never talked to her, lied about going to her work the other day, lied and said there was a two hour accident on the freeway and that's why he was home late - we checked and there wasn't) and she basically asked him if he loved her enough to send her home. He said yes I do. And my poor sister loves him so much she just wants to believe every word he says. After that she felt a little better until she checked the records again and noticed they were texting nonstop again about an hour later.
She messaged her husband and asked why he was still texting her. There was also a picture text - which he said was him sending her his marriage license? He said he was trying to show her how important his marriage is to him. My sister asked if she drove home if she could see the texts and he said he had already deleted them.
She finally called him and said she wanted the truth, and he admitted that after she called him earlier they had sex. And that he isn't sure what he wants to do. He said he refuses to leave their house (my sister is a stay at home mom, incredibly devoted to her two year old daughter) and he is telling her that their child is going to live with HIM and he wants full custody.
I just need any advice you guys have. What should my sister do at this point, I'm guessing she should avoid any interaction with him that isn't through text/email?
He also admitted to trying to get her drunk/blacked out four nights ago so he could have sex with this woman. I wish she had that in writing because I think that would help with custody.
How can someone cheat on their loyal spouse like that and then say they are going to take away their child??? Her daughter is the world to her. My sister is just completely broken right now. It's heart breaking. I need to know what her rights are, she shouldn't have to leave the house which is the only stable place her daughter has known her entire life. My sister also doesn't have anywhere to go... she could stay with people here and there temporarily but she will need to get a place. Is her husband going to have to assist her with any rent?
Any answers are soooo appreciated. Sorry if this all over the place, not a lot of sleep happening, I can't get my sister to eat. She keeps going back and forth just wanting to forgive him (but he isn't acting remorseful and isn't doing anything to regain her trust at this point) somehow she still just loves him so much she wants it to work. He can be really manipulative and make her believe it is all her fault.
Thanks for any help in advance.
He told my sister a week ago that he was thinking about leaving her, which came completely out of nowhere. He said it's because she has too much anxiety and depression and put the blame all on her (re-wrote marriage history saying he's always been unhappy, but they've been happily married for 10 years up until these past two months)
Last night she was really emotional and had come down to my house to spend the night. She wanted to drive up to his house and see if this other woman was there because she noticed that he had called her the minute she left and then there were no more texts for the next five hours.
She couldn't wait to confront him but she couldn't drive up, so she called him and told him she knows he's been lying (he said he never talked to her, lied about going to her work the other day, lied and said there was a two hour accident on the freeway and that's why he was home late - we checked and there wasn't) and she basically asked him if he loved her enough to send her home. He said yes I do. And my poor sister loves him so much she just wants to believe every word he says. After that she felt a little better until she checked the records again and noticed they were texting nonstop again about an hour later.
She messaged her husband and asked why he was still texting her. There was also a picture text - which he said was him sending her his marriage license? He said he was trying to show her how important his marriage is to him. My sister asked if she drove home if she could see the texts and he said he had already deleted them.
She finally called him and said she wanted the truth, and he admitted that after she called him earlier they had sex. And that he isn't sure what he wants to do. He said he refuses to leave their house (my sister is a stay at home mom, incredibly devoted to her two year old daughter) and he is telling her that their child is going to live with HIM and he wants full custody.
I just need any advice you guys have. What should my sister do at this point, I'm guessing she should avoid any interaction with him that isn't through text/email?
He also admitted to trying to get her drunk/blacked out four nights ago so he could have sex with this woman. I wish she had that in writing because I think that would help with custody.
How can someone cheat on their loyal spouse like that and then say they are going to take away their child??? Her daughter is the world to her. My sister is just completely broken right now. It's heart breaking. I need to know what her rights are, she shouldn't have to leave the house which is the only stable place her daughter has known her entire life. My sister also doesn't have anywhere to go... she could stay with people here and there temporarily but she will need to get a place. Is her husband going to have to assist her with any rent?
Any answers are soooo appreciated. Sorry if this all over the place, not a lot of sleep happening, I can't get my sister to eat. She keeps going back and forth just wanting to forgive him (but he isn't acting remorseful and isn't doing anything to regain her trust at this point) somehow she still just loves him so much she wants it to work. He can be really manipulative and make her believe it is all her fault.
Thanks for any help in advance.
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