as i believe i've mentioned before, one of the issues w/my wife is that i don't feel that she's pulling her fair share of duties around the house. our house is a wreck to the point that our three kids have never had a play date over at our house because it's too much of a wreck. i will occasionally make headway but she never bothers keeping up with the progress i make. it's like trying to hold back a forest fire with an eyedropper.
anyway, the point of this post is this: i've been looking for an email sent to our shared email address since last thursday. i don't use it often, but it is both our complete names and we both use it. so it's shared.
when i first went in last thursday, i saw that she had purchased a couple books for her ereader that day. she is a voracious reader and i've suspected that a lot of the reason that little gets done is because she's reading when i'm at work and the kids are away at school. of course, that's tough to prove...
i went back yesterday and discovered that she had bought two more books. that means that in six days, she's read two books. on average, they're between 350-400 pages each. break that out, that's about 350-400 pages every three days... if you read 60 pages an hour, that's about two hours of reading a day. that got me thinking, wondering if i could document how much she'd read. so i did a quick email search and found that she had bought 20 books from barnes and noble since jan 8.
two issues: 1. i feel guilty for snooping, but it confirmed my suspicions. so it's hard to feel all that guilty.
2. if each book takes five hours to read (being generous, it's probably more), that is one hell of a lot of time out the window. that 100 hours at least tossed out the window in about a month and a half. if i had 100 hours to kick around, our house would be freaking spotless. so yes, i'm pissed.
now, trying to take her perspective, there are times where she's waiting on the kids. she likes to take them to soccer practice (where she takes her ereader), but during that time, i have the one or two kids who don't have practice and i'm usually either cleaning or doing homework with them.
she reads at night a lot, even past when i go to sleep, so i'm not sure how much. but even at that, she wakes up exhausted in the morning, claiming insomnia. pretty sure that it's book-borne insomnia.
so to put it in a tight little package, i am hot. where i'm at now is that i'm going to monitor the email address more closely, print out the receipts and present them to her after three months, six months, however long i can hold out to make the case stronger.
strangely, this has actually made me calmer at home. i'm usually on edge when i get home and nothing's been done because i'm wondering exactly she's been doing. now that i know, it's almost a relief.
anyway, the point of this post is this: i've been looking for an email sent to our shared email address since last thursday. i don't use it often, but it is both our complete names and we both use it. so it's shared.
when i first went in last thursday, i saw that she had purchased a couple books for her ereader that day. she is a voracious reader and i've suspected that a lot of the reason that little gets done is because she's reading when i'm at work and the kids are away at school. of course, that's tough to prove...
i went back yesterday and discovered that she had bought two more books. that means that in six days, she's read two books. on average, they're between 350-400 pages each. break that out, that's about 350-400 pages every three days... if you read 60 pages an hour, that's about two hours of reading a day. that got me thinking, wondering if i could document how much she'd read. so i did a quick email search and found that she had bought 20 books from barnes and noble since jan 8.
two issues: 1. i feel guilty for snooping, but it confirmed my suspicions. so it's hard to feel all that guilty.
2. if each book takes five hours to read (being generous, it's probably more), that is one hell of a lot of time out the window. that 100 hours at least tossed out the window in about a month and a half. if i had 100 hours to kick around, our house would be freaking spotless. so yes, i'm pissed.
now, trying to take her perspective, there are times where she's waiting on the kids. she likes to take them to soccer practice (where she takes her ereader), but during that time, i have the one or two kids who don't have practice and i'm usually either cleaning or doing homework with them.
she reads at night a lot, even past when i go to sleep, so i'm not sure how much. but even at that, she wakes up exhausted in the morning, claiming insomnia. pretty sure that it's book-borne insomnia.
so to put it in a tight little package, i am hot. where i'm at now is that i'm going to monitor the email address more closely, print out the receipts and present them to her after three months, six months, however long i can hold out to make the case stronger.
strangely, this has actually made me calmer at home. i'm usually on edge when i get home and nothing's been done because i'm wondering exactly she's been doing. now that i know, it's almost a relief.
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