I've been a long distance relationship for 4 years now. We met at school and did long distance for the last 3 years throughout uni. I graduated last year and I'm living local to home. He graduates this summer and has been offered a job with a company very far from where I am. He's taken it.
I thought long distance would be over after we both graduate. Now I know it isn't. He said he wouldn't go for something if it was far away, but he has. Granted, he can transfer after about 9 months, but I'm starting to doubt whether he will. And I don't feel like I can move for him when he's chosen to be far away from me. He said he'd always choose a half decent job if he could be with me over a dream job if he couldn't be with me. I guess I'm hurt that it was obviously a lie.
He thinks we can still make it work. I'm at a loose end because a part of me feels like he has done the right thing by himself, but another part of me feels like he has single handedly tarnished our future together.
Long distance has been tough but I got through it because it wasn't forever. Now I'm not sure. I had a lot of things go on during university that I really needed my boyfriend there for and he wasn't. He was 150 odd miles away.
I don't want to throw away a 4 year relationship but I also don't want to look back and wonder why I wasted my time on this.
I'd like to hear what you'd do in my position.
I thought long distance would be over after we both graduate. Now I know it isn't. He said he wouldn't go for something if it was far away, but he has. Granted, he can transfer after about 9 months, but I'm starting to doubt whether he will. And I don't feel like I can move for him when he's chosen to be far away from me. He said he'd always choose a half decent job if he could be with me over a dream job if he couldn't be with me. I guess I'm hurt that it was obviously a lie.
He thinks we can still make it work. I'm at a loose end because a part of me feels like he has done the right thing by himself, but another part of me feels like he has single handedly tarnished our future together.
Long distance has been tough but I got through it because it wasn't forever. Now I'm not sure. I had a lot of things go on during university that I really needed my boyfriend there for and he wasn't. He was 150 odd miles away.
I don't want to throw away a 4 year relationship but I also don't want to look back and wonder why I wasted my time on this.
I'd like to hear what you'd do in my position.
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