So I recently seperated from my husband. I left a month and a half ago, we have been married about a year and a half.
There were tremendous amounts of abuse and it finally turned phsyical. I also found evidence of the start of infidelity. We have a 9 month old baby.
I know that its better that I left. I am smart enough to know that. I am so much happier, like a weight has lifted.
He was a terrible father, spending little or no time at the house with our child, he was very unsupportive, accusing, and found no fault within himself.
I had tried over and over and over again to talk things out and come to a solution, but it seemed the fault always lay with me.
After I left his mother brought him to the mental health clinic crisis center. They kept him for 4 days. He is now on medication for being depressed, suicidal, sleeping pills, and probably anxiety, etc. I dont know for sure.
I have a few questions regarding my whole mess.
How do i best handle the situation with his mental status? Right now there is a no-contact order. He continiously tries to get other people to talk to me. He goes from angry to agreeable and everywhere in between.
A question is about my son, I agreed to ample visitation, every other weekend and two afternoons a week. It is supervised visits, at his parents house. I often get my son back early, and it seems he is more of an inconvience than anything. How can I encourage a better realtionship?
I grew up with an abusive father, both of my sisters have also endured abusive realtionships. I have no contact with my parents and they have no interest in my life either. How can I find HEALTHY relationships in the future? My husband started out great, but am I drawing this kind of attention unknowingly? Am I putting up with too much? Should I be firm and assertive from the get go? Some people have said they put their SO "in thier place" the first time undesirable behavior started. Is this normal? I expressed my concern from the beginning with my husband, when things started going badly, but attributed it to me being newly pregnant and married and him being stressed form that.
And a final question, we purchased a home together right before we were married, that is our main asset together, how do you go about splitting up belongings and whatnot? What is fair?
I dont live in the home anymore, I am staying with relatives until I can fully get back on my feet.
I am trying to deal with this as maturely as possible. There are some negative feelings toward him on my part, but I do not want this to affect my son so I am handling it very carefully.
There were tremendous amounts of abuse and it finally turned phsyical. I also found evidence of the start of infidelity. We have a 9 month old baby.
I know that its better that I left. I am smart enough to know that. I am so much happier, like a weight has lifted.
He was a terrible father, spending little or no time at the house with our child, he was very unsupportive, accusing, and found no fault within himself.
I had tried over and over and over again to talk things out and come to a solution, but it seemed the fault always lay with me.
After I left his mother brought him to the mental health clinic crisis center. They kept him for 4 days. He is now on medication for being depressed, suicidal, sleeping pills, and probably anxiety, etc. I dont know for sure.
I have a few questions regarding my whole mess.
How do i best handle the situation with his mental status? Right now there is a no-contact order. He continiously tries to get other people to talk to me. He goes from angry to agreeable and everywhere in between.
A question is about my son, I agreed to ample visitation, every other weekend and two afternoons a week. It is supervised visits, at his parents house. I often get my son back early, and it seems he is more of an inconvience than anything. How can I encourage a better realtionship?
I grew up with an abusive father, both of my sisters have also endured abusive realtionships. I have no contact with my parents and they have no interest in my life either. How can I find HEALTHY relationships in the future? My husband started out great, but am I drawing this kind of attention unknowingly? Am I putting up with too much? Should I be firm and assertive from the get go? Some people have said they put their SO "in thier place" the first time undesirable behavior started. Is this normal? I expressed my concern from the beginning with my husband, when things started going badly, but attributed it to me being newly pregnant and married and him being stressed form that.
And a final question, we purchased a home together right before we were married, that is our main asset together, how do you go about splitting up belongings and whatnot? What is fair?
I dont live in the home anymore, I am staying with relatives until I can fully get back on my feet.
I am trying to deal with this as maturely as possible. There are some negative feelings toward him on my part, but I do not want this to affect my son so I am handling it very carefully.
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