This will be a longer post so thanks for staying with me and commenting as I don't have any friends or family Id be comfortable with explaining this to.
I've been with my wife for 19 years and married for 11. We have both as far as I know been very faithful. I want to describe myself a little too...I believe when you marry someone you commit 100%. You leave your past ..in your past. I roll this way as I think it very disrespectful to the other person to keep bringing up old flames.
So....Rewind to 3 years ago.
We are at a neighbors party and my wife and I are all sitting around the table with friends enjoying the day. One of our neighbors asks her neighbor if she knew my wife's Ex. I knew my wife was bringing him up in conversation to her new friends and neighbors. We had a huge fight over it as I felt she still has an interest in an old supposedly "gotten over" flame. Enough to continue to have conversations with friends about him. I was hurt and at the same time very angry.
We had some arguments before this incident where she compared me to her ex in a negative way. It was one of the worst if not the worst thing shes ever said to me.
Fast fwd to 4 days ago. I m on our computer and look up history to re visit a page that I was looking at for a part for my Bow. I see in addition to my pages is a Facebook page containing the visited page of MY Wife's Ex's wife and him. I let one day lapse and see that that days history is erased.
I wrote down the name of her exes wife and then ask her who the lady was. She lied and said she didn't know then about 5 minutes later told me the truth.
I got very angry and upset. I was against either of us getting Facebook acct s as I knew she would look up flames from her past. She PROMISED me she would do nothing of the sort a year ago when we both logged on to FB. So I was Ok with it.
My question is Am I wrong fro feeling betrayed and angry? Should I as many of her friends husbands just "be mature and accept it" ?
We've been arguing for the last few days and its pretty much ruined my Christmas.
Thanks for any advice or commentary.
I've been with my wife for 19 years and married for 11. We have both as far as I know been very faithful. I want to describe myself a little too...I believe when you marry someone you commit 100%. You leave your past ..in your past. I roll this way as I think it very disrespectful to the other person to keep bringing up old flames.
So....Rewind to 3 years ago.
We are at a neighbors party and my wife and I are all sitting around the table with friends enjoying the day. One of our neighbors asks her neighbor if she knew my wife's Ex. I knew my wife was bringing him up in conversation to her new friends and neighbors. We had a huge fight over it as I felt she still has an interest in an old supposedly "gotten over" flame. Enough to continue to have conversations with friends about him. I was hurt and at the same time very angry.
We had some arguments before this incident where she compared me to her ex in a negative way. It was one of the worst if not the worst thing shes ever said to me.
Fast fwd to 4 days ago. I m on our computer and look up history to re visit a page that I was looking at for a part for my Bow. I see in addition to my pages is a Facebook page containing the visited page of MY Wife's Ex's wife and him. I let one day lapse and see that that days history is erased.
I wrote down the name of her exes wife and then ask her who the lady was. She lied and said she didn't know then about 5 minutes later told me the truth.
I got very angry and upset. I was against either of us getting Facebook acct s as I knew she would look up flames from her past. She PROMISED me she would do nothing of the sort a year ago when we both logged on to FB. So I was Ok with it.
My question is Am I wrong fro feeling betrayed and angry? Should I as many of her friends husbands just "be mature and accept it" ?
We've been arguing for the last few days and its pretty much ruined my Christmas.
Thanks for any advice or commentary.
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