Sexual assaults in the military

I was watching the news the other day and the military released a (preliminary?) report on their findings in the sex assault crisis that came to light recently. The entire story was about training men on how to "behave" around women. But that got me thinking: What kind of training for women was included in this report? Probably none, for two MAJOR reasons. 1 - There is NO WAY a panel of men is going to even HINT that women need to change their behavior because of this. They KNOW that "blame the victim" will be screamed from the rooftops of every building in America. Now, before that is screamed from the rooftops of every home housing a TAM member, let me explain why they SHOULD be training women just as much as men (maybe more so). 2 - Men DO NOT choose women to be a buddy. PERIOD. There is almost a general consensus on this site (among the men anyhow), that if a man goes out of his way to befriend you (as opposed to forced social friendships like work), he wants sex. Men are disgusting pigs that will take advantage of a woman's stress (being in the military, away from home, away from loved ones) and offer a shoulder to cry on, a pal to talk to, just so they can get you alone for their perverse desires. Now, I understand #2 is "blaming the victim". But if I walk down the middle of the street in the worst neighborhood in town wearing a Rolex and a big bulge where my wallet goes, I will most likely get mugged. And it is MY RIGHT to walk anywhere I want. If they catch the guys that mugged me they will be dealt with by the law. But my chances of getting hurt by NOT PUTTING MYSELF INTO THAT SITUATION are GREATLY reduced. Are all of those men going to admit to the world that men and women can't be friends (we can't even do it here)? Somehow I don't see them opening that can of worms. So if they can't do that, it makes it impossible to discuss women being more careful who they party with and/or bond with. So they will continue to put themselves into harms way, maybe more so, because they think the 18-22 testosterone riddled men got the training they need to be gentlemen. May I even propose that some of these boys will use "I got the training, I'm ALL OVER the women's issues thing now" to get MORE women. "Let's go for a walk on the beach and talk about home..." or "Bobby is having a party tonight, but don't worry, I'll protect you from all of those boys who didn't FEEL the training like I did", or "now that you know I'm cool, can I tell you how beautiful you look in those combat boots"? But that's not what really matters here. What matters is that men scolded other men for acting like...men. Once everyone goes through their sensitivity training, and they find there is still a problem two years down the road, maybe they'll rethink it.

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