Dropping the 180?

So...I am looking at 'Suspect My Wife is Having an Affair' thread (spoiler: she was) In it, the BS, disgusted, lost and horrified, did the 180 on his wife. Now, it is generally understood that the 180 is for the spouse's emotional detachment, and not to 'manipulate' the WS from coming back. But...that is frequently a purpose for the BS: to make the WS interested again. Now, on this particular thread (sorry, it's in the private section), the BS did this...and suddenly the WS was PEPPERING the BS with texts, phone calls and desires for meetings. Now, in HIS case, he's done. She had a year and a half affair. But...say he was reconciling. What is the point where we advice the spouse: okay...enough dark. It's time to talk to your spouse and start healing the breech.

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