Really in need of advice and guideance

Hi Everyone, I have been following this forum for a long time and I am very happy to have found a place where people put in so much time and effort to offer good advice and help. I need some help and guidance on my situation. I have been married for 4.5 years and together with my wife for 12 years, we meet when we were 18 and 20 years old. We have had many good time through the years however we have now come to a point where is seems as divorce is on the horizon. The year after we got married we bought a condo and stayed for a year and a half until we felt that we needed a little more space and both wanted a house. We settled on a nice but older house in a good area that cost us a fair bit, we decided to do some renovations before we moved in which grew to a full house reno because the wife wanted everything to be new. I told her that we really didn't have the money but she insisted and I gave in. We took out a couple of bank loans and put some on a credit card knowing full well that we would have to keep spending down for the next 2 or 3 years. We both have good jobs and are well employed earning 65 and 70 grand a year for a combined income of 135 grand, plus I do some work on Saturdays to bring home some groceries and food. So with all the bills and some spending by the wife the money has been really tight the the last two years, we did manage to get a nice two week vacation to Europe last summer because the wife said she need one or she can't go on. We have one borrowed car at the moment because the wife crashed hers and it was not worth to be fixed. So with all this and money being tight the wife tells me that she again needs a Europe vacation this spring or summer, I tell her that we will see what we can do, maybe get a last minute deal or something. Then she tells me that she needs a new diamond ring to add to here wedding band collection with already includes 3 karots of diamonds and I will be done paying for this year. And then to top it all off she tells me that she needs a new car so I say lets look at the budget and see what we can do. She was not happy with that because she feels that she deserves a new BMW or Mercades (60,000). When I tell her that we can't afford that she gets all mad. I work 6 days a week, help around the house (cleaning, dishes, cooking, watering the lawn, garbage and take care of all the house maintenance). Since Christmas she has been telling me that I need to do more and that she want's more things. She feels like she made a mistake marrying me and that her life is not good enough. This last week she exploded and told me that I am not a man and I don't do enough to make her life comfy. She said that she probably want's a divorce. I am at my wits end, she is always miserable and grumpy that she has to work, comes home or wakes up *****y and has a problem getting along with most people. She feels that since I don't make more money that my parents should be giving me some. She has also had health problems the last three years and we have no children at the moment. What should I do?, I am 3.5 years into a career that takes anout 7-10 before any real money is earned even though I don't think that I am doing so bad for a 31 year old (wife is soon to be 30). Should I stay and fight and work more or will this only make it worse, I don't think she will change and she will always be unhappy and want more. All she does is compare to others and what they have. Thanks for reading this long post and I look forward to your advice and feedback. :scratchhead:

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