Hello I am back again. I love this board it has seen me through hell and back. So here is my story, I have been engaged for 9 months. Relationship is great. My Fiance is affectionate loving attentive so am I, we have blended our families well. I have 2 boys she has a daughter.
Well about 3 months ago I became busy with work she was with school and work and fell into that comfortable stage were affection dropped off a little but not terrible, communication could have been better you the know the normal roller coaster of a relationship. We started carving more time out for each other etc. I was not really involved in wedding planning cause we are 2 yrs out fiance of course has been since day 1. So present day we are still good but need some adjustment here is the scenario, but she is currently on vacation coming home tomorrow, she is visiting family for a reunion with her daughter, could not take time off work and my boys went on vacation with their mom (previous marriage) no big deal I was looking forward to the quiet time work was going to be busy of course I was going to miss them
We had an agreement she would text and call when available we talk alot when she is home so limited text/talk is a diff scenario for us which is understandable and we agreed to before hand and in reality she has held up her bargin , her parents get upset when she is on the phone alot because they see her once a year so they want her undivided attention .
Here lies the issue, the day she left and i mean almost to the hour I freaked out! Full panic mode. So through text I of course opened my heart, agreed to have kid (previously was not on board) wanted to truly get married not just a commitment ceremony, just grasp at straws that i had to jump for on every topic to house remodeling, our communication, alot of issues she has brought up but in no way were we on the fence or ending, in fact she made the statement in one text we are better than ever to settle me down. Of course she needs to spend time with her family so her responses were not timely in my eyes so that drove the panic further. Now in my past i have had separation anxiety etc but truly felt this go around I concurred it yeah not so much. Now we are going out of town when she gets back and she said yesterday she wants to talk about expectations and solutions she did not want to do it over the phone near family it was her second to last day but of course you hear talk word and panic mode set in a little more but I think it will come out fine.
My question is what the hell is driving this reaction? What can i do to prepare for a future vacation or time away seperatley, she is off for the the summers and I am not so she may go back home every other summer or so nothing in stone yet. We do have a big family vacation planned next summer but there may be room for herto also go home for a week if this all makes sense I appreciate and Thanks in advance
Well about 3 months ago I became busy with work she was with school and work and fell into that comfortable stage were affection dropped off a little but not terrible, communication could have been better you the know the normal roller coaster of a relationship. We started carving more time out for each other etc. I was not really involved in wedding planning cause we are 2 yrs out fiance of course has been since day 1. So present day we are still good but need some adjustment here is the scenario, but she is currently on vacation coming home tomorrow, she is visiting family for a reunion with her daughter, could not take time off work and my boys went on vacation with their mom (previous marriage) no big deal I was looking forward to the quiet time work was going to be busy of course I was going to miss them
We had an agreement she would text and call when available we talk alot when she is home so limited text/talk is a diff scenario for us which is understandable and we agreed to before hand and in reality she has held up her bargin , her parents get upset when she is on the phone alot because they see her once a year so they want her undivided attention .
Here lies the issue, the day she left and i mean almost to the hour I freaked out! Full panic mode. So through text I of course opened my heart, agreed to have kid (previously was not on board) wanted to truly get married not just a commitment ceremony, just grasp at straws that i had to jump for on every topic to house remodeling, our communication, alot of issues she has brought up but in no way were we on the fence or ending, in fact she made the statement in one text we are better than ever to settle me down. Of course she needs to spend time with her family so her responses were not timely in my eyes so that drove the panic further. Now in my past i have had separation anxiety etc but truly felt this go around I concurred it yeah not so much. Now we are going out of town when she gets back and she said yesterday she wants to talk about expectations and solutions she did not want to do it over the phone near family it was her second to last day but of course you hear talk word and panic mode set in a little more but I think it will come out fine.
My question is what the hell is driving this reaction? What can i do to prepare for a future vacation or time away seperatley, she is off for the the summers and I am not so she may go back home every other summer or so nothing in stone yet. We do have a big family vacation planned next summer but there may be room for herto also go home for a week if this all makes sense I appreciate and Thanks in advance
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