After spending a lot of time searching for advice I've come to the realization that I am either not a very good googler or that my situation is pretty unique. Please forgive my lengthy post and offer whatever advice you may see fit.
I met my wife 6 years ago when we were both active duty in the Marine Corps. 2 children later, we came to the decision that it would be in her best interests to get out, having served honorably for 5 years, and be a stay at home mother for the first few years of our children's lives.
It has now been a little over a year and our marriage has started to suffer. All of our arguments stem from the same route cause: she feels like she isn't accomplishing anything and blames me. I support her decision to do whatever it is her heart desires, wether it's going back to school, getting a job, becoming more involved in our church..etc. to no avail. I don't know what to do to fix this.
The most recent symptom and most specific reason I am writing this is that our house has become a disaster area. I was in the field for 45 days and came back to what can only be described as a nightmare. Please don't think of me as a misogynist, it is by no means solely her job to clean but I wasn't here. I can't talk to her about this without her feeling like I am attacking her. Do I bite my tongue as I do 10 loads of laundry? Do I act like it's ok that I have to repaint a room because she thought she would half paint one wall of said room? Or do I further make her feel like she isn't accomplishing anything?
I don't know what to do until the dryer beeps.
I met my wife 6 years ago when we were both active duty in the Marine Corps. 2 children later, we came to the decision that it would be in her best interests to get out, having served honorably for 5 years, and be a stay at home mother for the first few years of our children's lives.
It has now been a little over a year and our marriage has started to suffer. All of our arguments stem from the same route cause: she feels like she isn't accomplishing anything and blames me. I support her decision to do whatever it is her heart desires, wether it's going back to school, getting a job, becoming more involved in our church..etc. to no avail. I don't know what to do to fix this.
The most recent symptom and most specific reason I am writing this is that our house has become a disaster area. I was in the field for 45 days and came back to what can only be described as a nightmare. Please don't think of me as a misogynist, it is by no means solely her job to clean but I wasn't here. I can't talk to her about this without her feeling like I am attacking her. Do I bite my tongue as I do 10 loads of laundry? Do I act like it's ok that I have to repaint a room because she thought she would half paint one wall of said room? Or do I further make her feel like she isn't accomplishing anything?
I don't know what to do until the dryer beeps.
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