Have been going out with bf for 6 months, to cut a long story short I don't like sex and he does, it irritates me more than anything all the touching etc. I like hugging/cuddling that's it I do kiss him to please him as he really enjoys it. I've not mentioned it but although I like him I think part of what puts me off is that I'm scared of getting sti's as he has had over 35 partners in his past (he's in his 40's). I have brought up sti testing but he said he has had one years ago and is clean so I tried not to push , but I know he's had people since then! We have nearly broke up several times cause of me being reluctant with sex and him feeling rejected. His mum died last week though and I'm trying to support him, get his shopping in etc but I dread every weekend as I know he expects sex and I know when I try and don't get it right it will cause conflict/an argument. Added to this is the fact that he is grieving, I feel a lot of pressure and don't want to add to his stress in anyway. I don't know what to do. I want to be there for him but he seems to want a relationship or nothing at all. I don't want to cause conflict at the weekend when I stay with him as it happens everytime but I feel pressure to have sex to avoid this conflict. Don't know what to do if I'm honest and say I don't want sex this weekend he will take the huff like last weekend and will say I'm adding to the stress. I can recognise emotional blackmail so am aware of it happening but he is going through a lot right now so I can see it from his side too.
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