How did you decide what lawyer to meet with when you started your divorce process? Cost? Friendliness? Location? Some other criteria I'm not aware of that would help me decide? I've been very nonchalant about starting this process... guess thought my soon to be ex husband would take the reigns (more on that in a minute) but it's time I get this started. I thought I had a lawyer that I felt I wanted, but that fell through. Never officially met with them...
Anyways, I called around just inquiring about consultation fees at multiple law offices. They ranged from $60 all the way up to $250. I don't even know who to pick!!! Do I go with the cheapest one? I have to be careful with my money... The kicker though, the one that was the most expensive at $250 was also the friendliest to me on the phone and assuring me that even though other places may be cheaper or free, that here I'd get a guaranteed hour and half blah blah blah they just seemed to most friendly and helpful even though I was only inquiring. So do I choose them?! $250 is a lot for a consultation though :(
What would you do? Or how did you pick? Any tips on how I can decide?
Other thing... my stbxh has been very hands off about this, at least the actual divorce part. We had had a discussion about a month and a half back, and I honestly can't even remember who started it or how it came about because we barely speak... and basically we both said we want this to be as amicable as possible (I still don't fully trust him), I should move out by this time frame, a lot of language that made it clear we were no longer going to be together and moving on... but no talk about meeting with lawyers or filing. At all. I'm very cautious about having to speak to him because of safety issues... but do I need to have some sort of discussion with him about who will file? Or should I just go meet with a lawyer regardless... I just know that that will lead to a subpoena of documents that I don't have access to... don't know if my stbxh would expect that at this point or feel blindsided. Honestly I think the only reason he hasn't filed is he wants to be able to tell pe ople that his wife divorced him... sigh.
But right now I am living elsewhere for a temporary work assignment, but will be moving back to the home we both own. I am still financially tied to him in many ways... I am afraid to be the one to rock the boat with starting the divorce process, but at the same time he is on board with no longer being together, living together etc. Should I talk with him again first about it, or just go ahead and do it?
Anyways, I called around just inquiring about consultation fees at multiple law offices. They ranged from $60 all the way up to $250. I don't even know who to pick!!! Do I go with the cheapest one? I have to be careful with my money... The kicker though, the one that was the most expensive at $250 was also the friendliest to me on the phone and assuring me that even though other places may be cheaper or free, that here I'd get a guaranteed hour and half blah blah blah they just seemed to most friendly and helpful even though I was only inquiring. So do I choose them?! $250 is a lot for a consultation though :(
What would you do? Or how did you pick? Any tips on how I can decide?
Other thing... my stbxh has been very hands off about this, at least the actual divorce part. We had had a discussion about a month and a half back, and I honestly can't even remember who started it or how it came about because we barely speak... and basically we both said we want this to be as amicable as possible (I still don't fully trust him), I should move out by this time frame, a lot of language that made it clear we were no longer going to be together and moving on... but no talk about meeting with lawyers or filing. At all. I'm very cautious about having to speak to him because of safety issues... but do I need to have some sort of discussion with him about who will file? Or should I just go meet with a lawyer regardless... I just know that that will lead to a subpoena of documents that I don't have access to... don't know if my stbxh would expect that at this point or feel blindsided. Honestly I think the only reason he hasn't filed is he wants to be able to tell pe ople that his wife divorced him... sigh.
But right now I am living elsewhere for a temporary work assignment, but will be moving back to the home we both own. I am still financially tied to him in many ways... I am afraid to be the one to rock the boat with starting the divorce process, but at the same time he is on board with no longer being together, living together etc. Should I talk with him again first about it, or just go ahead and do it?
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