I have heard a lot of nonsense being spouted about age gap relationships and so in this post I will clear all this up.
Many people will have a negative reaction to age gap relationships, especially if a guy regularly pursues/dates/hooks up with women 10, 15 or 20 years (or more) younger than him.
To an extent, I've even experienced this backlash myself (mostly online, though) and what I've found is the 'haters' will spout out some common cliches about age gap relationships, which I will discuss and debunk in this post.
The most common myths about age gap relationships and hook ups
It is my observation that these are some of the most common cliches about age gap relationships:
Myth 1: That it's 'creepy' for an older guy to pursue, date or hook up with women 10, 15 or 20+ years younger than him
Some women label older guys who pursue younger women as 'creepy', as if the fact that he's older automatically makes him as such. But this is a myth.
The term 'creepy' is a very overused word anyway, and it's gotten to the point where it's an almost meaningless word these days.
The real truth: If a guy comes across as 'creepy' to a woman, that has nothing to do with his age and everything to do with his demanour and personality. It's perfectly possible for a guy around the same age as a girl to be 'creepy', and an older guy to not be creepy at all. 'Creepiness' is not linked to a guy's age and does not increase the bigger the age gap.
Myth 2: That a guy is 'taking advantage' of a girl or 'using her for his own selfish pleasure' if she's a lot younger than him
Some people believe a guy is 'taking advantage' of younger women if he pursues them romantically/sexually. This is a myth.
The real truth: Younger women aren't as dumb, stupid or naive about relationships and sex as some people would have you believe, especially in this day and age, and most of them are perfectly capable of judging a guy's character and deciding whether they want to be with him out of their own free will and free choice. They aren't being 'taken advantage' of at all.
As for 'using her for his own selfish pleasure', that's total bull**** too. A guy can be much older than a girl and still treat her with respect, and ensure it's a shared experience for him and her, not merely a selfish experience for him. There are plenty of young guys in their late teens and early 20s who 'take advantage of girls' and 'use them for their own selfish pleasure'. A guy being older does NOT automatically make him more likely to use or take advantage of a girl.
Myth 3: That two people are more likely to be compatible if they're around the same age as each other
Another big misconception is that a guy and girl are more likely to be compatible if they're the same or similar age as each other. I've also heard people say that if they are in different stages of their lives, that it means you're less likely to be compatible with each other.
The real truth: Romantic and sexual compatibility has nothing to do with the respective ages of each partner, but rather whether they are good fit together personality wise as well as sexually in the bedroom. It's perfectly possible for two people the same age to be incompatible romantically and sexually.
Myth 4: Even if it's legal, it's 'morally questionable' or not 'socially acceptable' for an older guy to pursue much younger women
I've also heard some people say things like 'well it may be legal for you to date a girl that age, but it's still morally wrong and it's not socially acceptable'.
Eh? Say again? Show me the law or the rule that say's that any of these statements are true. You can't, because such 'rules' or 'laws' don't exist! Most of what we as a society deem to be 'socially acceptable' is nothing more than an arbitrary and highly subjective set of assumptions and beliefs people mistakenly believe are absolute fact or truth.
The real truth: Comments such as 'it's morally questionable' or 'it's not socially acceptable' to pursue/date/hook up with much younger women are nothing more than subjective opinions that have no basis of absolute truth to back them up.
Myth 5: A guy is only pursuing younger women because he 'can't get women his own age'
This one is very laughable! Have you ever stopped to think that maybe I don't want women my own age? Or that I might like women my age and be able to get them no problem, but that I simply prefer younger women?
The real truth: A guy who pursues younger women does so because he prefers them over women his own age, not because he 'can't get' women his age.
Myth 6: Younger women don't like being pursued by or hooking up with much older guys; they will just think he's a dirty/pervy old man
Some people automatically assume that 'girls don't like older guys, all younger girls will be turned off and creeped out by older guys'. But this just isn't true.
The real truth: A lot of younger girls love older (and even much older) guys. They like the added maturity, life experience and sexual experience of older guys compared with guys their own age. As an older guy, your age is an advantage, not a disadvantage. Do your own research and you'll find loads of articles and videos about younger women who prefer to date/hook up with much older guys.
If someone wants to label me as a 'dirty old man' or a 'cradle snatcher' for hooking up with a younger (but perfectly legal) girl, I can live with that! What the **** is a 'dirty old man' or a 'cradle snatcher' anyway? Those are just bull**** labels.
Myth 7: A guy who pursues younger women must be very immature or a 'man child' who 'needs to grow up', etc.
This is a really laughable myth too! Some people will try and say that men who pursue younger women are 'immature' or 'need to grow' up, etc. But this is also a total myth.
The real truth: Just because a guy is attracted to younger women, doesn't mean he's 'immature'. He could be a very mature, well rounded individual who just happens to find younger women more attractive than women his age or older, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Myth 8: That a girl has 'daddy issues' if she dates/hooks up with older (or much older) guys.
I'm sure you've heard this criticism directed towards younger women who prefer older guys. But again, it's just another meaningless label to knock women down who like older guys
The real truth: A girl doesn't have 'daddy issues' if she pursues older guys. She just prefers older men, usually because she likes the experience and maturity they bring to her that she doesn't get with guys her own age. If people want to label this as 'having daddy' issues, that's up to them.
Negative comments from other men
You may find other men give you negative comments or reactions about age gap relationships. Often this is just their own jealousy talking - they're jealous that you are hooking up with women younger and hotter than they are able to, and they take their frustration out on you by 'attacking' you with negative comments.
Negative comments from other women
You might also get negative comments and reactions from other women when you hook up with younger women. Often women the same age as, or older, than the guy will criticise him for pursuing women who are much younger than him. They'll often say things like 'He should stick to women his own age'. But really, they are jealous that he's pursuing younger women and are just frustrated that he finds them hotter and sexier than he finds them.
The truth about these myths and negative comments and why people spout them
These myths and negative comments are nothing more than 'socially programmed cliches' that people spout out about age gaps without really stopping to think about whether they're actually true or not. They're also vast over-generalisations too, that don't apply to ALL age gap relationships.
Negative comments from other men and women about pursuing younger women are nothing more than shaming tactics that they use to try and make you feel guilty or ashamed about it, when there's no reason to feel guilty or ashamed at all. If nature didn't intend us to be attracted to younger women, then we wouldn't feel attracted towards them. But we are. So don't feel any guilt or shame about pursuing younger women. It's totally natural and fine.
If most men were really honest (without worrying about how other people will react), they'd admit that they are attracted to younger women. They just hide this fact because they fear the negative reactions of other people.
The truth about these myths and why people spout them. These myths are nothing more than 'socially programmed cliches' that people spout out about age gaps without really stopping to think about whether they're actually true or not. They're also vast over-generalisations too, that don't apply to ALL age gap relationships.
Also, the truth is that is most men were really honest (without worrying about how other people will react), they'd admit that they are attracted to younger women. They just hide this fact because they fear the negative reactions of other people. If nature didn't intend us to be attracted to younger women, then we wouldn't feel attracted towards them. But we are. So don't feel any guilt or shame about pursuing younger women. It's totally natural and fine.
My own experiences
Personally, I regularly pursue women who are 10, 15 or more years younger than me and I don't find it a problem at all. I don't find that younger women are 'creeped out' by me pursuing them. In the real world, I don't get such a negative reaction from them. It only seems to be online in discussion forums that the backlash against me comes out in full force, but this backlash doesn't correlate to my real world experiences.
I'm in my early 30s and I actually find it easier now to hook up with women 10 to 15 years younger than me than when I was the age of the women I hook up with, or than when I was in my 20s. That can only confirm to me that most younger women DO like older guys and that they will overlook a guy's age if they are attracted to him and turned on by him.
I also don't find it any easier or harder to pick up younger women vs women my age or older. I don't find any one age group is easier or harder to pick up. That being the case, why wouldn't I just pursue the ones I find attractive, even if they're a lot younger than me?
It also confirms to me that in a lot of cases it gets easier for a guy to pick up women as he gets older. It's much better being a guy in his 30s than a guy who's in his late teens or early 20s. At least in my experience anyway. I noticed a shift around my late 20s in that it got easier to pick up women for me. Maybe that was because I've worked hard to better myself in this subject, but I still think age played a factor and worked as an advantage for me.
And by the way, don't assume that I ONLY pursue younger women. I think women around my age or older can be hot and attractive too. There are some very sexy women in their 30s, 40s and even 50s, and there are some younger women, student age or in their 20s, who are total ugly munters who I wouldn't want to be seen with at all. I generally prefer younger women, but I do find women of other ages attractive too. I think life would be VERY boring if I only hooked up with women my age or of one age group and not of other ages.
The one mindset that will break you free from these criticisms
No matter who you are or what you do in life, there will always be some people who don't like you and who criticise you, and this also applies to age gap relationships. The solution is simply not to care what anyone else thinks about you. When you no longer give a **** what anyone else thinks about you, you are free to be and do whatever you want without the opinions of other people holding you back and watering you down.
Conclusion
This post might 'upset' a few people or 'hit a nerve' with them. Personally I don't give a damn. Without meaning to sound like a total *******, my attitude is that anyone who has an adverse reaction to me (or any other guy) dating or pursuing and hooking up with women who are much younger (or older, for that matter) can go and **** themselves and it's their problem not mine.
As long as everyone is legal, consenting and mentally sound, then there's nothing wrong with any age gap relationship or hook up, even large age gaps. Don't listen to anyone who says otherwise.
Why do I pursue much younger women? Because I find them attractive and because I can, that's why!
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