Surfing through the forum, this has been a recurring problem.
A relationship starts. Both parties are excited about sex. After some time, the woman loses interest.
In some cases, the woman is not even interested from day one.
So sex becomes job – something you plan for. (The typical "once a month", "2x a week" etc.). in most of these stories, it seems like the woman forces herself into it.
So in this post, I'd say what I know works. It may not work for everyone but I've seen it work for most couples.
One note of warning: most of the things I will tell you may sound counter-intuitive but they work.
So, shall we…?
There is one thing I've discovered about human sexuality: every (healthy) woman enjoys sex as much as (if not more than) men. But the way women enjoy it is radically different from men's.
For example, what generally turns both genders on is radically different. Men are primarily turned on by what they see; women are generally turned on by what they hear and imagine.
The problem is that we think that what turns us on is what turns our partner on. But it's not. That's why over time, women lose interest. By extension makes them LD.
So below are tips for curing your woman's LD…
I'll divide it into 2 parts
1. Outside the bedroom
2. Inside the bedroom
Outside the bedroom
For women, love making starts outside the bedroom. It's about those little actions that lead to build-up. And for women, sex is all about the build-up. It's what gets them into the mood.
So below are tips to get her into the mood.
i. Tell. Tell her what turns you on about her. Be specific. What pleasant behaviors does she possess? Tell her.
In essence, complement her. And be honest about it.
Do you like the way she rolls her hips when she walks? Tell her. Does her smile captivate you? Tell her. Do you like the way her eyes light up when she's excited? Tell her. Or maybe, you appreciate how supportive she's been to you. Tell her. And don't forget to be specific about it.
As a man, you may want to show your appreciation by helping more around the house or by working harder, but that is secondary. Your woman needs to actually hear it from your lips to fully feel it.
That's pure female psychology.
ii. Touch. "Meaningful" touching is a huge turn on for most women. By meaningful, I mean touching that is NOT just touchy-feely: touch that is appropriate for the moment.
For example, if she says something that makes you laugh, you may gently push her by the shoulder while telling her how funny "that" sounds. You may slightly touch her in the arm – or thigh – to emphasize your point – or draw her attention. You may hold her hands while walking. You may put your hand on her hips while leading her to a direction. You may remove lint from her face. Just use your imagination. The list is endless.
iii. Lead. Be dominant… No. Not bossy. DOMINANT. That means being attentive and assertive at the same time. Make decisions for the family. Be clear on what you want. And that must come from the inside-out. That means, stop being an approval seeking make (i.e. if you are). No more Mr. nice guy (i.e. that husband who's too nice). Most women need this to get turned on. They need to feel your inner strength.
In conclusion, a woman's primary turn on is your character – and by extension, your mind-set.
Inside the Bedroom
Once you're both in the mood and are in the bedroom (or wherever you're having sex), your focus should change. It should be about giving and receiving pleasure.
Below are tips to do that…
i. Pay attention. First to your body and next to hers.
While making love, you need to be present. Be in your body. Be aware of your feelings and emotions. As common sensical as it may sound, most guys don't do that. They're mostly in their head. While there, some wonder how long they can last. Some imagine the porn star performance the saw on the internet. Others are thinking techniques.
But all these are not necessary. You need to be present to enjoy the experience.
Pay attention to her body. When you touch her, how does she react? Does she moan louder? Does she pull closer? Does she jerk? The point is, find what really turns her on. And when you do, keep stimulating it. That will get her there.
ii. State. State what you're feeling. What is she doing that is turning you on? Tell her. In essence, engage in dirty talks. It drives women wild.
In conclusion, focus on giving and receiving pleasure. The point is, if she doesn't enjoy it, why will she want to do it again?
Do you have a technique that has worked for you? Please share.
A relationship starts. Both parties are excited about sex. After some time, the woman loses interest.
In some cases, the woman is not even interested from day one.
So sex becomes job – something you plan for. (The typical "once a month", "2x a week" etc.). in most of these stories, it seems like the woman forces herself into it.
So in this post, I'd say what I know works. It may not work for everyone but I've seen it work for most couples.
One note of warning: most of the things I will tell you may sound counter-intuitive but they work.
So, shall we…?
There is one thing I've discovered about human sexuality: every (healthy) woman enjoys sex as much as (if not more than) men. But the way women enjoy it is radically different from men's.
For example, what generally turns both genders on is radically different. Men are primarily turned on by what they see; women are generally turned on by what they hear and imagine.
The problem is that we think that what turns us on is what turns our partner on. But it's not. That's why over time, women lose interest. By extension makes them LD.
So below are tips for curing your woman's LD…
I'll divide it into 2 parts
1. Outside the bedroom
2. Inside the bedroom
Outside the bedroom
For women, love making starts outside the bedroom. It's about those little actions that lead to build-up. And for women, sex is all about the build-up. It's what gets them into the mood.
So below are tips to get her into the mood.
i. Tell. Tell her what turns you on about her. Be specific. What pleasant behaviors does she possess? Tell her.
In essence, complement her. And be honest about it.
Do you like the way she rolls her hips when she walks? Tell her. Does her smile captivate you? Tell her. Do you like the way her eyes light up when she's excited? Tell her. Or maybe, you appreciate how supportive she's been to you. Tell her. And don't forget to be specific about it.
As a man, you may want to show your appreciation by helping more around the house or by working harder, but that is secondary. Your woman needs to actually hear it from your lips to fully feel it.
That's pure female psychology.
ii. Touch. "Meaningful" touching is a huge turn on for most women. By meaningful, I mean touching that is NOT just touchy-feely: touch that is appropriate for the moment.
For example, if she says something that makes you laugh, you may gently push her by the shoulder while telling her how funny "that" sounds. You may slightly touch her in the arm – or thigh – to emphasize your point – or draw her attention. You may hold her hands while walking. You may put your hand on her hips while leading her to a direction. You may remove lint from her face. Just use your imagination. The list is endless.
iii. Lead. Be dominant… No. Not bossy. DOMINANT. That means being attentive and assertive at the same time. Make decisions for the family. Be clear on what you want. And that must come from the inside-out. That means, stop being an approval seeking make (i.e. if you are). No more Mr. nice guy (i.e. that husband who's too nice). Most women need this to get turned on. They need to feel your inner strength.
In conclusion, a woman's primary turn on is your character – and by extension, your mind-set.
Inside the Bedroom
Once you're both in the mood and are in the bedroom (or wherever you're having sex), your focus should change. It should be about giving and receiving pleasure.
Below are tips to do that…
i. Pay attention. First to your body and next to hers.
While making love, you need to be present. Be in your body. Be aware of your feelings and emotions. As common sensical as it may sound, most guys don't do that. They're mostly in their head. While there, some wonder how long they can last. Some imagine the porn star performance the saw on the internet. Others are thinking techniques.
But all these are not necessary. You need to be present to enjoy the experience.
Pay attention to her body. When you touch her, how does she react? Does she moan louder? Does she pull closer? Does she jerk? The point is, find what really turns her on. And when you do, keep stimulating it. That will get her there.
ii. State. State what you're feeling. What is she doing that is turning you on? Tell her. In essence, engage in dirty talks. It drives women wild.
In conclusion, focus on giving and receiving pleasure. The point is, if she doesn't enjoy it, why will she want to do it again?
Do you have a technique that has worked for you? Please share.
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