Hi.
Long story short, a year ago my ex-wife left me after cheating with another.
Shortly after, she quit her job and moved provinces. She cancelled her e-mail and the only way of getting a hold of her is by e-mail.
She has expressed in her email she wants nothing from me, but we own a house together. I filed the petition for divorce and she never filed a defense against it. This puts me in a good position, should ever we go to court (although my lawyer doubts it will get that far).
The deal we spoke in person originally was; "You transfer the land title to me, and I write you a cheque that repays your downpayment and the mortgage payments you made on your behalf (roughly $13K)"
We have no kids, and I never supported her (she always had a job).
A couple months ago I sat down with a friend and we devised an email to send to her, clarifying the initial deal. It was just a very brief explanation of how things will turn out, basically stating that I am getting the house and I need her to sign the paper.
Of course, not only has she refused to sign the paper (like she did in person), she stopped replying to me. I don't blame her, I got a little crazy near the end, but in my email I wrote with my friend it was as non-emotional as possible (very brief).
Anyways, what would you do in a case like this? Legally, the house will be mine be default, and I have no requirement to pay her the $13K....so do I do just that? My lawyer has pretty much said that if she doesn't answer she doesn't get squat.
I haven't emailed her since. I don't see the point anymore and I am sure she just wants to be left alone (although she totally abandoned her families and is also being quite rude with her lack of response).
It's been a good year since she left. Emotionally I was a wreck until a few months ago. Doing really good, but I can't say there has not been a single day that has gone by where I did not think of her. So yeah. Good guy, bad guy, middle guy. What to do? Most guys get brutalized in a divorce...yet I seem to have come out on top.
Thanks!
Long story short, a year ago my ex-wife left me after cheating with another.
Shortly after, she quit her job and moved provinces. She cancelled her e-mail and the only way of getting a hold of her is by e-mail.
She has expressed in her email she wants nothing from me, but we own a house together. I filed the petition for divorce and she never filed a defense against it. This puts me in a good position, should ever we go to court (although my lawyer doubts it will get that far).
The deal we spoke in person originally was; "You transfer the land title to me, and I write you a cheque that repays your downpayment and the mortgage payments you made on your behalf (roughly $13K)"
We have no kids, and I never supported her (she always had a job).
A couple months ago I sat down with a friend and we devised an email to send to her, clarifying the initial deal. It was just a very brief explanation of how things will turn out, basically stating that I am getting the house and I need her to sign the paper.
Of course, not only has she refused to sign the paper (like she did in person), she stopped replying to me. I don't blame her, I got a little crazy near the end, but in my email I wrote with my friend it was as non-emotional as possible (very brief).
Anyways, what would you do in a case like this? Legally, the house will be mine be default, and I have no requirement to pay her the $13K....so do I do just that? My lawyer has pretty much said that if she doesn't answer she doesn't get squat.
I haven't emailed her since. I don't see the point anymore and I am sure she just wants to be left alone (although she totally abandoned her families and is also being quite rude with her lack of response).
It's been a good year since she left. Emotionally I was a wreck until a few months ago. Doing really good, but I can't say there has not been a single day that has gone by where I did not think of her. So yeah. Good guy, bad guy, middle guy. What to do? Most guys get brutalized in a divorce...yet I seem to have come out on top.
Thanks!
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