Hello All,
I don't know if any of you remember me (or for new member), but I started posting her a couple of years ago due to SM. There were some SM elements around the start of my marriage and definitely went into over-drive prior to pregnancy and afterward. The sexlessness reached a grand total of about 2.5 years, definitely one of the most trying times of my life.
Well, I'm happy to report that our sex life is thriving these days. I left the online community (TAM included) because I noticed that I was writing and lamenting about my marriage, but wasn't doing much about it. In any case, I began to find my mojo, little by little. I practiced being more assertive in other aspects of the marriage and welcomed the conflict that came with it. We got into more fights, which were basically the same fights she wanted to stop having years prior, when she told me that I needed to be sensitive to her needs. Well I began to be more sensitive to my needs, as well, and regained my own voice. I worked out more, which she didn't like at first, but managed to lose about 30 pounds. Long story short: I began listening to me more. And...she did too!
Once there appeared to be mutual respect again, we began dating again. Movies, dinners, dancing, etc...
And then there was SEX! :surprise: It was slow at first, both in quantity and quality; she wanted no foreplay quickie sex. But then, it slowly became more frequent and more passionate. Last night was pretty awesome, actually! :grin2:
So yes, I'm back because I remembered this forum and wanted to update you since many of you were so supportive and gracious. Thank you for the sensitivity, but also a big thanks for the kick in the butt! :laugh:
I don't know if any of you remember me (or for new member), but I started posting her a couple of years ago due to SM. There were some SM elements around the start of my marriage and definitely went into over-drive prior to pregnancy and afterward. The sexlessness reached a grand total of about 2.5 years, definitely one of the most trying times of my life.
Well, I'm happy to report that our sex life is thriving these days. I left the online community (TAM included) because I noticed that I was writing and lamenting about my marriage, but wasn't doing much about it. In any case, I began to find my mojo, little by little. I practiced being more assertive in other aspects of the marriage and welcomed the conflict that came with it. We got into more fights, which were basically the same fights she wanted to stop having years prior, when she told me that I needed to be sensitive to her needs. Well I began to be more sensitive to my needs, as well, and regained my own voice. I worked out more, which she didn't like at first, but managed to lose about 30 pounds. Long story short: I began listening to me more. And...she did too!
Once there appeared to be mutual respect again, we began dating again. Movies, dinners, dancing, etc...
And then there was SEX! :surprise: It was slow at first, both in quantity and quality; she wanted no foreplay quickie sex. But then, it slowly became more frequent and more passionate. Last night was pretty awesome, actually! :grin2:
So yes, I'm back because I remembered this forum and wanted to update you since many of you were so supportive and gracious. Thank you for the sensitivity, but also a big thanks for the kick in the butt! :laugh:
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