I have been getting this feeling for the past few months. That my compliments to my wife have less and less "value". My wife is in her late 30s and takes good care of herself (and us) and looks beautiful and hot. However, I also think she is LD and is too much into the kids and not into me, after we had kids. At times I feel that I am just a paycheck for her in order to pay for her life projects (our kids). Many husbands feel this way and are guilted into being okay with this in today's messed up feminist society.
Anyway, the reason the thread is I feel that I may have given her too many compliments over the years, so from the law of demand and supply, the value of my compliments have gone down. I tell her she looks beautiful when she dresses up and she has a "ok whatever" expression even when she says thank you. She is a great cook and when I saw that something she's made is awesome, she says the equivalent of "oh?" absent mindedly as if she wasn't really listening. Every morning as I come downstairs from bed, I come and hug her from the back and feel up her waist and hips (god I love that) and then her butt. I do that in bed before we fall asleep too.
Since I am not happy with how she now responds, I have put a stop to all of this for the past 3 days. No compliments on looks or cooking. No touching. I think she has to do her part to keep the fire alive. She very very rarely compliments me and often has a littany of complaints that I did not do this or that, so if there is so much negativity, I don't feel like saying anything nice about her. I don't want to say bad things about her, so I will stop the nice things.
Let's see if she misses it. If not, then I will have my answer.
Anyway, the reason the thread is I feel that I may have given her too many compliments over the years, so from the law of demand and supply, the value of my compliments have gone down. I tell her she looks beautiful when she dresses up and she has a "ok whatever" expression even when she says thank you. She is a great cook and when I saw that something she's made is awesome, she says the equivalent of "oh?" absent mindedly as if she wasn't really listening. Every morning as I come downstairs from bed, I come and hug her from the back and feel up her waist and hips (god I love that) and then her butt. I do that in bed before we fall asleep too.
Since I am not happy with how she now responds, I have put a stop to all of this for the past 3 days. No compliments on looks or cooking. No touching. I think she has to do her part to keep the fire alive. She very very rarely compliments me and often has a littany of complaints that I did not do this or that, so if there is so much negativity, I don't feel like saying anything nice about her. I don't want to say bad things about her, so I will stop the nice things.
Let's see if she misses it. If not, then I will have my answer.
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