So over the weekend, I went out to dinner with a girl that I met a week ago. She gave me her number, we planned when we were going to meet up. And I think it went pretty well. We spent a good amount of time talking about our lives, backgrounds, goals, personalities, etc, including some deep topics. I paid, we said our goodbyes. I thought of it as a nice "simple" first date.
I'm not a big believer of dating rules or the "three days rule" or anything, so I sent her a text around 24 hours later, telling her I had a good time getting to know her better over dinner. I also asked if she would like to go out for dinner again sometime. As the guy, I decided to initiate, so it would make it as easy for her as possible. I didn't want to take the risk of doing nothing, and possible not hearing back.
So far, a couple of days have passed and I've gotten no response from her, which is quite strange. She usually texts back within an hour with usually detailed responses. She did tell me that she was quite busy over the weekend with some lunch/dinner plans with a few friends. So I'm not sure if she's ignoring me, still thinking about it, or doesn't want to tell me.
I've looked a few previous threads on this issue and the takeaway is that no response probably means she isn't interested. I'm ready to move on, but I would like to hear a more definitive answer (either yes or no is fine with me), rather than not hearing back and wondering.
So what should I do? I was thinking to give her a couple of more days and hope she responds. If she doesn't contact me by then:
1) Should I ask her nicely for a definitive answer?
2) Or should I just simply move on, since the ball is in her court. Even if she was busy, she would probably text me back if I crossed her mind at all at some later time, right?
I'm concerned that if I choose option 2, I may never hear from her again, and it might get awkward if we happen to run into each other down the line.
Thoughts and/or advice anyone? Your responses are greatly appreciated.
I'm not a big believer of dating rules or the "three days rule" or anything, so I sent her a text around 24 hours later, telling her I had a good time getting to know her better over dinner. I also asked if she would like to go out for dinner again sometime. As the guy, I decided to initiate, so it would make it as easy for her as possible. I didn't want to take the risk of doing nothing, and possible not hearing back.
So far, a couple of days have passed and I've gotten no response from her, which is quite strange. She usually texts back within an hour with usually detailed responses. She did tell me that she was quite busy over the weekend with some lunch/dinner plans with a few friends. So I'm not sure if she's ignoring me, still thinking about it, or doesn't want to tell me.
I've looked a few previous threads on this issue and the takeaway is that no response probably means she isn't interested. I'm ready to move on, but I would like to hear a more definitive answer (either yes or no is fine with me), rather than not hearing back and wondering.
So what should I do? I was thinking to give her a couple of more days and hope she responds. If she doesn't contact me by then:
1) Should I ask her nicely for a definitive answer?
2) Or should I just simply move on, since the ball is in her court. Even if she was busy, she would probably text me back if I crossed her mind at all at some later time, right?
I'm concerned that if I choose option 2, I may never hear from her again, and it might get awkward if we happen to run into each other down the line.
Thoughts and/or advice anyone? Your responses are greatly appreciated.
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