Hello. I'm extremely new to this so please bear with me. I've been married for almost two years, and overall, we're happy. I quit my full time job last December, and have had a part time job since nannying on an as needed basis. At the time I quit my full time job, my husband was supportive of my decision and not resentful. I asked repeatedly to make sure. Well anytime we have a little disagreement or something happens that causes us to bicker, he brings up how he's the main supporter and doesn't feel like he's in an equal partnership. I primarily do all the cooking and cleaning, and taking care of our dogs during the day when I am home, but none of that matters to him or is acknowledged. I always listen and am very supportive when he discusses work and any issues he has. Also, let me point out then when we met, he bought a house paid all the expenses and mortgage, that is still the case except I pay for groceries, and vacations. The problem is he does co me off resentful, and we're going to try and have a child soon so I'm not looking for full time work and he doesn't expect me to...I'm kinda in a tough situation. Nothing pleases him, he always complains about what I cook, and how he doesn't care if I clean bc he doesn't care about dirt. Also, he mentioned that if we divorce, nothing would change for him, he'd have the house, health insurance, money etc. Really made me feel worthless when he said that. He doesn't want to get divorced and neither do I, but when we have a little tiff, it escalates and divorce word gets mentioned...why. I guess the point of me posting this is...is this normal? Is there a way to diffuse this and have common ground? Any suggestions/ comments are welcomed. Sorry for writing so much..wasn't sure where to start.
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