I'm not that great at sex/not too keen at it but my boyfriend calls me a general 'passion killer'. He said he's sorry for saying it but that it's true. We still haven't had sex proper the first time it hurt and a few other times I was very avoidant not making any moves as I didn't feel like it /didn't like all the kissing he does. I decided to make more of an effort as sex is important to him and he was thinking of leaving (he has been patient for months).
However it just so happened he developed a cold sore just when I wanted to start putting in effort. He started to kiss me and I mentioned that he had a cold sore and that it's best not to, he said it had scabbed over now but i said it's best to wait till it heals. The second time he avoided my mouth but was kissing my face and making his way down below with his lips. I reminded him again about the cold sore as I said people can catch them down below. He lay back and said 'passion killed again, sorry for saying it' then he turned over. He went and slept in another room for a bit, I went to him and told him it wasn't him I was rejecting just the coldsore and he came back in the room with me later and was annoyed about the coldsore thing. He said 'you can't get ****ing cold sores down below' I said 'apparently you can get genital herpes'. He said 'who told you that, tell them to get an education will you, it's healed anyway' after a while when he calmed down we cuddled again.
Its not just the above. I go all avoidant when he tries to initiate sex and don't make any moves. Is this like a massive insult to be called this lol, or does it just mean I'm not the sexual type ?
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