i have been married for 18 years.
my in laws are from mexico and a brother in-law asked 10 years ago to allow his wife stay with us for two months so that she can give birth to their child. i accepted and she came with their first born as well at did her thing and went back home. 5 years ago they asked to do the same and i said no. perhaps the wrong answer, but i was resentful because she was going to com now with 2 children while my brother stayed back in mexico to life the single life while i took care of his family for three months. i said at the time that she can com, but to have the two children stay with the father and have their grandmother take care of them while he was at work. that apparently was not an option so the third child was born in mexico.
now here is the problem...
no matter how much time goes by, (6 years) my wife will every once in a while bring it up and get angry thus resulting in the silent treatment, ignoring me, not cooking, to name a few things. she usually brings this issue up when my family who i do not see often wants to come around.
in general i do not like to argue with my wife as i would not want to say something i do not mean out of anger and i definitely do not want my children to see us yell or argue. i will admit when i am wrong and will just wait out the storm so to speak.
yesterday was another episode because my brother wants to coming by for Easter. i apologized to her AGAIN and said i was sorry for not allowing her brothers wife to come give birth and stay in our home and that i was wrong in doing so.
nonetheless i am in the same situation with the whole silent treatment and all.
what to do? i am not out of love with my wife, but this is getting very old and she doesn't seem to want to drop it.
I am 43 and she is 40..., yet i think she is acting a bit immature.
my in laws are from mexico and a brother in-law asked 10 years ago to allow his wife stay with us for two months so that she can give birth to their child. i accepted and she came with their first born as well at did her thing and went back home. 5 years ago they asked to do the same and i said no. perhaps the wrong answer, but i was resentful because she was going to com now with 2 children while my brother stayed back in mexico to life the single life while i took care of his family for three months. i said at the time that she can com, but to have the two children stay with the father and have their grandmother take care of them while he was at work. that apparently was not an option so the third child was born in mexico.
now here is the problem...
no matter how much time goes by, (6 years) my wife will every once in a while bring it up and get angry thus resulting in the silent treatment, ignoring me, not cooking, to name a few things. she usually brings this issue up when my family who i do not see often wants to come around.
in general i do not like to argue with my wife as i would not want to say something i do not mean out of anger and i definitely do not want my children to see us yell or argue. i will admit when i am wrong and will just wait out the storm so to speak.
yesterday was another episode because my brother wants to coming by for Easter. i apologized to her AGAIN and said i was sorry for not allowing her brothers wife to come give birth and stay in our home and that i was wrong in doing so.
nonetheless i am in the same situation with the whole silent treatment and all.
what to do? i am not out of love with my wife, but this is getting very old and she doesn't seem to want to drop it.
I am 43 and she is 40..., yet i think she is acting a bit immature.
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