We've been married 18 months.
I pushed to combine our finances.
I earn 80% of the income. We pay bills, including costs for her children (for whom she doesn't try to collect child support) out of a joint account.
She has been single for a number of years.
She has retained her retirement account, a couple of checking accounts and a credit card that I am not allowed access to. She says she couldn't stand it if I criticized her spending.
Her "private" credit card is paid out of our joint account.
She says she isn't being dishonest cause she tells me about the accounts existence and approximately what the balances are.
I have given her access to everything of mine. She refuses to return the openness even though I have said it will kill the relationship.
I am looking for a reason for it not to.
Fact is, it makes me not believe anything she says because it makes me think she is keeping secrets.
what would you do?
I pushed to combine our finances.
I earn 80% of the income. We pay bills, including costs for her children (for whom she doesn't try to collect child support) out of a joint account.
She has been single for a number of years.
She has retained her retirement account, a couple of checking accounts and a credit card that I am not allowed access to. She says she couldn't stand it if I criticized her spending.
Her "private" credit card is paid out of our joint account.
She says she isn't being dishonest cause she tells me about the accounts existence and approximately what the balances are.
I have given her access to everything of mine. She refuses to return the openness even though I have said it will kill the relationship.
I am looking for a reason for it not to.
Fact is, it makes me not believe anything she says because it makes me think she is keeping secrets.
what would you do?
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