I have only been divorced a little over a month. We were separated for 1 1/2 before that. I have been dating a little but most don't go past the 2nd date. One guy I have been seeing for months (started before the divorce was final but I was separated from my ex). We see each other maybe once a week. We have never had the "talk" but I'm pretty sure neither one of us wants anything serious (or else one of us would have brought it up, right?).
I have reconnected with another guy I have known for many years. We have gone out on a few dates and we always have fun. He is a nice guy but I'm just not ready for a serious relationship right now. Last time I saw him he asked me if I cared if people we both know find out that we are dating. I said that I don't mind if close friends know but I don't want to go public with anything (like posting something on Facebook). I feel I need to tell him that I don't want anything serious right now. I think a lot of guys assume that women naturally want to be in serious relationships. I'm not sure that he does but I don't want any misunderstandings.
Its not like I want to sleep with a bunch of men, I just don't want to settle down with one guy right after getting divorced. He is also divorced but it has been years for him. Is it safe to assume that neither person thinks you are in an exclusive relationship until you have that conversation? I have never had to have that conversation with a guy before. If it was a guy I met at a bar or dating website, I wouldn't care so much. The fact that we have known each other so long (and have mutual friends) complicates things.
btw, I'm still seeing the first guy which is part of the reason I'm asking.
I have reconnected with another guy I have known for many years. We have gone out on a few dates and we always have fun. He is a nice guy but I'm just not ready for a serious relationship right now. Last time I saw him he asked me if I cared if people we both know find out that we are dating. I said that I don't mind if close friends know but I don't want to go public with anything (like posting something on Facebook). I feel I need to tell him that I don't want anything serious right now. I think a lot of guys assume that women naturally want to be in serious relationships. I'm not sure that he does but I don't want any misunderstandings.
Its not like I want to sleep with a bunch of men, I just don't want to settle down with one guy right after getting divorced. He is also divorced but it has been years for him. Is it safe to assume that neither person thinks you are in an exclusive relationship until you have that conversation? I have never had to have that conversation with a guy before. If it was a guy I met at a bar or dating website, I wouldn't care so much. The fact that we have known each other so long (and have mutual friends) complicates things.
btw, I'm still seeing the first guy which is part of the reason I'm asking.
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