I've got kind of a unique situation that I am dealing with so I will try to preface:
My wife has legal custody of her two second cousins that are half sisters (10 and 6). The older ones father moved out of state and has some visitation for parts of the year. My wife is currently fighting to have all his rights removed. We don't know who the father of the younger one is. The mother is completely gone from the situation. I never signed any papers taking custody or adoption of them
My wife is a SAHM and homeschools them. I am the main breadwinner but her dad (who also lives with us) provides support because my paycheck is not enough to support our lifestyle.
When my wife and I have heated arguments and I have threatened to leave, my wife involves the children in our arguments and tells them that she will have to give them up because she can't afford to care for them alone or will lose custody because of it all.
For one, I keep thinking it's incredibly manipulative way to get me to feel guilty and for two she is emotionally damaging these children when the argument is mainly just between the two of us.
As it is, the older one is already going through therapy consistently to deal with her separation anxiety.
Is there something wrong with this situation and the way my wife handles it or is she just doing it because she doesn't want to lie to them? Is there a better way to handle it?
My wife has legal custody of her two second cousins that are half sisters (10 and 6). The older ones father moved out of state and has some visitation for parts of the year. My wife is currently fighting to have all his rights removed. We don't know who the father of the younger one is. The mother is completely gone from the situation. I never signed any papers taking custody or adoption of them
My wife is a SAHM and homeschools them. I am the main breadwinner but her dad (who also lives with us) provides support because my paycheck is not enough to support our lifestyle.
When my wife and I have heated arguments and I have threatened to leave, my wife involves the children in our arguments and tells them that she will have to give them up because she can't afford to care for them alone or will lose custody because of it all.
For one, I keep thinking it's incredibly manipulative way to get me to feel guilty and for two she is emotionally damaging these children when the argument is mainly just between the two of us.
As it is, the older one is already going through therapy consistently to deal with her separation anxiety.
Is there something wrong with this situation and the way my wife handles it or is she just doing it because she doesn't want to lie to them? Is there a better way to handle it?
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