This is going to be a long post, so please bare with me. My husband and I married at the ages of 18 & 19, we will have been married 6 years this July. About 2 years into our marriage we began "exploring options" finding out just what each other liked, sexually. About 3-4 years back during sex one night (to get him off) I mentioned a 3-some while the idea sounded good in my head, I saw it as nothing more than that. Well from there, he ran with it.. I'm not a prude by any means.. I will talk with him about everything, I've done anal, oral... Nothing too insane, but I'm not a missionary only girl.. I've talked about doing DP with other guys, being with other girls.. Being with him with other girls.. But this is nothing that I physically would want to do, this is all things I talk about in the heat of the moment in a bit of lust. I thought, that I had relayed this to him, CLEARLY. Apparently not. We moved home Dec 2012 (he was military). I have a cousin her e who I am very close too, she is like my sister. Well, wouldn't you know.. about 6 months after we moved home, my husband began the 3 some thing again, this time with my cousin... (She's my 3rd cousin) First, it was a 3 some, then just her and I with him watching, to now, just him fu*king her..... I talked to her about it and her response was very clear, NO. He insists, she won't know if she likes it until she tries it, even though she has said NO WAY, EVER! Also, I should mention, I felt pressured into asking her, as I really am not comfortable with the thought, and with the fights we have been having lately I felt like getting her to sleep with him, was the only real way to keep him, stupid I know.. He told me that he just wants to try something new, that sex is getting too routine. I get that, I said okay, let's watch porn, or even go to a strip club, get toys.. All answers are, no. He seems set on having sex with someone else, I know some people say, sex to men is just sex.. But, to me, it's not.. I am a woman, and it goes beyond that for me, that's just how I am wired, I suppose... So long story short, I am happy with our sex life, I am happy for the most part in our relationship. I however am not happy when everytime we have sex the end of his orgasm usually ends with telling me the reason he came was because he envisioned my cousins' boobs or naked... or all of the above... Also, it seems everytime we have sex he wants me to "talk dirty" about doing things with her, etc... I'm in a very confused place right now, I'm not mad at him for him having normal, man fantasies. What I am upset about is that I feel like I'm just not doing it anymore, like if I'm not her, or getting her to have sex with him, I'm not living up to the standard or should I say, fantasy, he holds.. If you need anymore information to help me figure out some kind of resolution, please feel free to ask. Thanks in advance for any and all advice.
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