Ok, I have been friends with this guy since September and we get on really well.
I thought it was a friendship safely in the platonic zone because he has a girlfriend whom he said he really loved and he knows that I have a boyfriend.
Recently, however, he has been taking every possible opportunity to compliment me, wanting to spend more time with me and seemed to be going off his girlfriend.
Today, he actually said that he now finds his girlfriend dull and that, "even though she's a lovely person", she isn't what he wants. He was also questioning me about my relationship, asking how it's going, if there are any problems, wondering if I see a future with my boyfriend, etc. He seems to take every opportunity to gently criticise my boyfriend or point out potential faults.
I tried to ignore it to begin with, but now it's painfully and unavoidably clear that he is interested in me.
What can I do to put him off?! I am completely in love with my boyfriend and wouldn't leave him for anyone, but I can't tell my friend to back off because he hasn't expressed his interest explicitly. I thought I had already made it clear that my boyfriend and I are for the long term, but he doesn't seem to have got the message. What do I do?!
I thought it was a friendship safely in the platonic zone because he has a girlfriend whom he said he really loved and he knows that I have a boyfriend.
Recently, however, he has been taking every possible opportunity to compliment me, wanting to spend more time with me and seemed to be going off his girlfriend.
Today, he actually said that he now finds his girlfriend dull and that, "even though she's a lovely person", she isn't what he wants. He was also questioning me about my relationship, asking how it's going, if there are any problems, wondering if I see a future with my boyfriend, etc. He seems to take every opportunity to gently criticise my boyfriend or point out potential faults.
I tried to ignore it to begin with, but now it's painfully and unavoidably clear that he is interested in me.
What can I do to put him off?! I am completely in love with my boyfriend and wouldn't leave him for anyone, but I can't tell my friend to back off because he hasn't expressed his interest explicitly. I thought I had already made it clear that my boyfriend and I are for the long term, but he doesn't seem to have got the message. What do I do?!
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