Ok so as in many relationships things have become a bit off balance in my relationship with things weighing in his favor. I don't like or appreciate game playing, but I would truly like some advice from men (or women who have tried and succeeded with this) about what I can do to balance things out again.
I find that I am giving more, doing more, stressing more, "fixing" more, talking about the future more....in general, I keep moving in and he keeps moving back. I learned about love languages and spoke to him about it but even so, I find myself catering to understanding what he needs based on his "language" a lot more than he is.
We are a fairly young couple, but quite old-fashioned in our relationship although nothing extreme. He is quite the "Alpha" male. I only mention this because any advice that involves me "putting my foot down" or being anything other than a woman in the feminine sense will get no results here. I don't want to get involved in power struggles. I just would like some soft, gentle ways to coax him more onto my side without becoming cold and miserable. Would just like to feel more appreciated and valued.
To the men here....when you find your woman being a bit too "needy" or just moving in towards you too much, what are things that she does/has done/can do that would make you start to pursue her again, not just sexually....but rather seeing value in her again and expressing it the way a man does (no expectation here that he will pat the sofa telling me to sit down so we can talk about our feelings.....not happening nor do I want it to).
Just feeling a bit under-appreciated and over-worked emotionally.
would love to hear your opinions...
I find that I am giving more, doing more, stressing more, "fixing" more, talking about the future more....in general, I keep moving in and he keeps moving back. I learned about love languages and spoke to him about it but even so, I find myself catering to understanding what he needs based on his "language" a lot more than he is.
We are a fairly young couple, but quite old-fashioned in our relationship although nothing extreme. He is quite the "Alpha" male. I only mention this because any advice that involves me "putting my foot down" or being anything other than a woman in the feminine sense will get no results here. I don't want to get involved in power struggles. I just would like some soft, gentle ways to coax him more onto my side without becoming cold and miserable. Would just like to feel more appreciated and valued.
To the men here....when you find your woman being a bit too "needy" or just moving in towards you too much, what are things that she does/has done/can do that would make you start to pursue her again, not just sexually....but rather seeing value in her again and expressing it the way a man does (no expectation here that he will pat the sofa telling me to sit down so we can talk about our feelings.....not happening nor do I want it to).
Just feeling a bit under-appreciated and over-worked emotionally.
would love to hear your opinions...
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