Ok so basically, I am quite a thinker and maybe over analyse myself a little too much but I am really interested in how not having those in a way 'pointless' boyfriends and relationships everyone goes through when they're in their teens like I am now will affect me later on and I am asking for general opinions.
I am at the end of my teens and I never had a boyfriend, I am not trying to sounds stuck up and it sounds weird saying this (and I hate it) but I am generally told I am attractive and I have had loads of guys ask me out before but I never said yes. I also can flirt with guys and have fun and I am quite outgoing and extroverted so it's isn't like I am generally scared of men, I just feel the relationships my age are really pointless and from experience of people going out for few months and it ends really somewhat annoy me and I'd never do anything like that. I think I might have somewhat commitment issues and it comes from the fact if I did get into a relationship I'd give in 100% and would treat it seriously and be totally loyal and I guess I am scared of not getting that in return which does make sense in relation to 'teen relationships' I guess I am that type of person that if I do make that decision to commit to someone I am set on being with them forever so I guess thats why I am always hesitant and why I never went out with anyone or ever had a boyfriend before- I've never met anyone yet that I'd 100% would want to be with. Some of my friends and others have similar mind set to me on this topic but most people have had that awful 'wet kisses and boyfriends when they where like 15-16' for the sake of having a boyfriend. And I never understood how people my age can jsut go out with someone for the sake of having someone there- it's such an impossible thing to me and even with my confidence I dont think I could ever do something like that. Obviously in the ideal world most girls dream is that my frist boyfriend will be the one I'll marry and spend my life with, but obviously logically dont probably wont happen and I dont know how I would cope with someone I invested myself into in a way failing the relationship.
My question is- now with a little background what do you think the consequences of not having those in-a-way experimental relationships when you where younger have on future relationships? I just dont feel 'normal' and my attitudes are a bit different to the 'norm'. I am going away to university soon and obviously there will be loads of chances of meeting new people and potential relationships and love interest and I was jsut wondering how I will be affected by it. I mean I am not anti-relationships and love the idea of having someone there so thats why I am trying to look at it differently and am curious of what my mind set is now and how it could alter my future relations. From a psychological and real life approach what are your theories on not having had those early relations bring later on when you do begin to find someone ( in uni or work etc.)
Thanks, I am really interested on hearing other peoples thoughts on this :)
I am at the end of my teens and I never had a boyfriend, I am not trying to sounds stuck up and it sounds weird saying this (and I hate it) but I am generally told I am attractive and I have had loads of guys ask me out before but I never said yes. I also can flirt with guys and have fun and I am quite outgoing and extroverted so it's isn't like I am generally scared of men, I just feel the relationships my age are really pointless and from experience of people going out for few months and it ends really somewhat annoy me and I'd never do anything like that. I think I might have somewhat commitment issues and it comes from the fact if I did get into a relationship I'd give in 100% and would treat it seriously and be totally loyal and I guess I am scared of not getting that in return which does make sense in relation to 'teen relationships' I guess I am that type of person that if I do make that decision to commit to someone I am set on being with them forever so I guess thats why I am always hesitant and why I never went out with anyone or ever had a boyfriend before- I've never met anyone yet that I'd 100% would want to be with. Some of my friends and others have similar mind set to me on this topic but most people have had that awful 'wet kisses and boyfriends when they where like 15-16' for the sake of having a boyfriend. And I never understood how people my age can jsut go out with someone for the sake of having someone there- it's such an impossible thing to me and even with my confidence I dont think I could ever do something like that. Obviously in the ideal world most girls dream is that my frist boyfriend will be the one I'll marry and spend my life with, but obviously logically dont probably wont happen and I dont know how I would cope with someone I invested myself into in a way failing the relationship.
My question is- now with a little background what do you think the consequences of not having those in-a-way experimental relationships when you where younger have on future relationships? I just dont feel 'normal' and my attitudes are a bit different to the 'norm'. I am going away to university soon and obviously there will be loads of chances of meeting new people and potential relationships and love interest and I was jsut wondering how I will be affected by it. I mean I am not anti-relationships and love the idea of having someone there so thats why I am trying to look at it differently and am curious of what my mind set is now and how it could alter my future relations. From a psychological and real life approach what are your theories on not having had those early relations bring later on when you do begin to find someone ( in uni or work etc.)
Thanks, I am really interested on hearing other peoples thoughts on this :)
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