I have heard this time and time again.. including on this forum.
There is a silly assumption that floats around suggesting the following :
the third party interloper is not in any way accountable for the affair's happening because they were willingly invited by the wayward spouse into the affair. The wayward gave me permission...
Basically "the devil made me do it", or "he started it"
I hear this all the time.
I don't buy this argument one bit.
To begin with, accepting something that is not yours to use, that is offered in secret, that is offered only if someone else does not know about it is a pretty big red light that you are crossing a line.
I really don't care if someone gave you permission, you are still interloping into someone's marriage in secret, bringing violation and toxicity baggage along with you as soon as you walk in the door.
No one has the right to do this to someone else's marriage. I really don't care if a wayward "gave you" permission...
It's time to grow up and realize just because someone said it's OK does not mean it's OK.
Willfully choosing to buy and use stolen goods, goods you know to be stolen does not make you an innocent victim, it makes you an accomplice...
There is a silly assumption that floats around suggesting the following :
the third party interloper is not in any way accountable for the affair's happening because they were willingly invited by the wayward spouse into the affair. The wayward gave me permission...
Basically "the devil made me do it", or "he started it"
I hear this all the time.
I don't buy this argument one bit.
To begin with, accepting something that is not yours to use, that is offered in secret, that is offered only if someone else does not know about it is a pretty big red light that you are crossing a line.
I really don't care if someone gave you permission, you are still interloping into someone's marriage in secret, bringing violation and toxicity baggage along with you as soon as you walk in the door.
No one has the right to do this to someone else's marriage. I really don't care if a wayward "gave you" permission...
It's time to grow up and realize just because someone said it's OK does not mean it's OK.
Willfully choosing to buy and use stolen goods, goods you know to be stolen does not make you an innocent victim, it makes you an accomplice...
Put the internet to work for you.
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