Is this the right thing?

I just found this site, after looking for some marriage guidance online. I guess I just need to talk to someone and Tuesday at the moment seems like a long time to wait to talk to my therapist. I have been with my significant other for over 10 years. We tied the knot last year and bought a house early this year. Everything seemed to be going great. Then, a few months after buying the house, my hubby stopped coming home. At first he would come home late from partying but soon he stopped coming home at all. This went from 1 night to 2 to sometimes 3 in a row. I tried at first to talk to him about it, but wasn't getting through, so as frustration built, we began to fight. I don't think he was cheating on me with anyone, for the most part his stories seemed to match and it was clear he was staying with friends or sleeping at work. In any case I don't believe in accusing people of something without proof. So who knows what was going on. After months of the fighting, not talking and just overall frustration, I decided to ask for a separation, take some time to perhaps cool off. I asked him to move out but he refused and I can't legally force him, the house is in both of our names. I tried separating living quarters, but he always ended up back in our room. He says he thinks I am disrespecting him when I tell him he should leave or try to get him to sleep in another room. After a few days of this I relented and just let him sleep in the room, next to me. And for a little bit things seemed to be on the up up. He was coming home all the time. We were talking and spending time together and I appeared desirable again. I was hopefully. Then, he went on a vacation with some buddies, a vacation he planned a few months before. While he was on vacation, we hardly conmunicated, which was a okay to me, a little space can be good. The day before he came home he called me and filled me in on his trip. He said I could ask him anything so I asked him if anything with any female had occurred, we had agreed not to see anyone while separated, he said no. After he came back, he was home, and we spent some time together and some time apart doing our thing. In one conversation we had, his trip came up, and out of the blue he told me he had engaged in sexual activity with a woman he met while away. I tried talking to him about it, asking why he lied to me, why was he all of a sudden volunteering this information, but he got very defensive and walked away. He did mention that we were separated and that he could do what he wanted, but we did not agree to sexual activity with others, mostly because we are still intimate with each other. Feeling betrayed, hurt, exhausted from the back and forth that has gone on, I decided to further separate the relationship. I did tell him how what he told me made me feel before I decided to sleep in one of the other bedrooms in the house that had a bed. I went to sleep early that night, before him. When he went to sleep, I guess he saw I wasn't in the room, and decided to look for me. He saw I was sleeping in a different room and jumped in the bed next to me. His overall actions are confusing me. He sometimes acts very caring and lovin and sometimes he acts like he is a single guy and I am just his friend. The back and forth has caused a lot of anxiety for me and so I have decided to move out of the house and into a cheap place. I will still help with house payments, since the house is on my name as well, but I think it would be best if we are not occupying the same space, at least until we can decide if we want to work on our marriage or not; working on our marriage for me will include marriage counseling, something he has always been against. I just wondering if moving out is the right decision. Posted via Mobile Device

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