Ex ( Wife ) little to no communication during divorce, anyone else ?

Just wondering if anyone else has went through this as well. My STBXW just really has no communication with me or my oldest 13 year old son. As a matter of fact she cut out her whole family; Mother, Father, Brother, Aunts, Cousins, ETC.. She basically moved in with the other man and is just hanging out with his family. She does not see my 13 year old and he is with me 7 days a week. But will see my youngest 8 year old 2 days out of the week, every week. She never really told me anything beyond the ILUBNILWU and basically "I'm sorry I just don't love you anymore". So I to say I am admittingly left in the dark with some of this. I would have been a bit more comfortable with all of this if she would have explained where it all fell apart. In the end I am left without some adequate closure. My other issue is I usually call my kids everyday from work ( I work Mon to Fri ) and even when my youngest is with his mother. My Ex will probably call once during the week to speak to my youngest when he is with me and usually when I am at work. But my Ex states she only has a cell phone as her primary number. But if I don't call during the specified time I told her in the past, she will not pick up the phone and she will not answer my text. End result I know my son is up watching TV but she will not let me speak with him. I told her if she isn't going to be flexible then it can go both ways. I have the ability to block her cell phone from call my home and this way she will only be able to speak with him by calling my cell phone. Like the saying goes what is good for the Goose and is good for the Gander. My Ex only works 3 days a week and barely works 4 hours during those days so she has a lot of free time on her hand. I expressed concerns about her dealing with our oldest and told her she needs to fix that relationship. It has fallen on deaf ears. I suggested counseling even to the point of telling her to see my therapist that I go to, just trying to deal with this situation. As a side note, I've been to 3 therapist so far, why ? Because the last 2 told me nothing was wrong with me. I've come to find out from the 3rd one that he feels the same. Nutshell I'm a man with a broken heart and that I might be feeling a bit more pain then someone else going through this because I seen it happen to my mom when my dad left never to come back. Nutshell this is a bit more magnified for me. Though we both agree I am angry and have a vengeful streak in me. I understand clearly even before talking to a therapist that my wife is ashamed and this is why she has a hard time talking with me or my oldest son. I have asked my youngest if mommy asks about me, his brother or anyone for that matter and he says no. I get she has moved on, but I know also that burying her head in the sand will not help her fix her issues. My Ex tries to play it off like she is okay and laughs at me to some extent, which admittingly pisses me off. Her comments are like she is okay with all of this and its all me. E.G. "I'm fine, it you that is having these issues and is going to therapy" I do believe that this is just part of her infidelity fog and I have read here and other places, this fog sometimes takes years to lift depending on the situation. Right now she has someone to lean on and even though its crappy for them financially, she still has not hit rock bottom. I don't bother even trying to point out how she isolated herself and I will eventually use this against her in court if needed. So my whole point of this thread is just to find out if anyone else went through or is going through something similar in which a Ex is shut everyone out and if they ever recovered or if not. I have used similar post in the past to gauge certain out comes and it has been very helpful to me. As a side note: After previewing this thread I know it sound sort of timid. Trust me I am not. I am very vengeful and calculated. I feel bad for my Ex in some ways because of my kids but in the end I intend on getting full custody of my boys. She no longer is on a pedestal and to me now I am playing chess while she is playing checkers. In the end I want her clearly see how bad of a mistake she made leaving and ruining our lives and my kids lives.

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