I haven't done anything like this before so bare with me as I tend to Ramos! I have been married for 3 1/2 years, been together for 6 total. I've been considering counseling but I think I already gave up. I've done a lot of research and what I'm finding all confirms my beliefs that I am in a controlling relationship. My husband does not like it when I hang out with my friends and is constantly texting me to check up on me, even if I go to my mom's house.
I am basically a single parent to our child, i.e.- I do all the bathing, feeding, diaper changes, etc. But if I'm doing something different then the way my husband would, he steps in to let me know (he has children from a previous marriage).
He has an extreme temper and has broken things and thrown things. He has never been physically abuse, but has threatened it. He has said he would never hit me, but in the same breath said if he ever did hit me I wouldn't wake up from it.
There is absolutely no reasoning with him, the double standards in our relationship are laughable. He says I don't tell him what's wrong or how I'm feeling, but when I try to, he blows it off or says, get over it. Our arguments have no resolution. They just go in circles of blame. (This is where I feel counseling may help, but at the same time, I don't see him changing)
I mentioned that I was looking at apartments and that's when he started with the apologies and guilt of, don't you love me, and how can you just give up so quickly. But since then (months ago) nothing has really changed.
I don't know if this is worth going through anymore, but I think it could be worse if I leave? My friends say I should leave and my mom is supportive either way, she just wants me to be happy and sees that I'm not right now.
Thoughts?
I am basically a single parent to our child, i.e.- I do all the bathing, feeding, diaper changes, etc. But if I'm doing something different then the way my husband would, he steps in to let me know (he has children from a previous marriage).
He has an extreme temper and has broken things and thrown things. He has never been physically abuse, but has threatened it. He has said he would never hit me, but in the same breath said if he ever did hit me I wouldn't wake up from it.
There is absolutely no reasoning with him, the double standards in our relationship are laughable. He says I don't tell him what's wrong or how I'm feeling, but when I try to, he blows it off or says, get over it. Our arguments have no resolution. They just go in circles of blame. (This is where I feel counseling may help, but at the same time, I don't see him changing)
I mentioned that I was looking at apartments and that's when he started with the apologies and guilt of, don't you love me, and how can you just give up so quickly. But since then (months ago) nothing has really changed.
I don't know if this is worth going through anymore, but I think it could be worse if I leave? My friends say I should leave and my mom is supportive either way, she just wants me to be happy and sees that I'm not right now.
Thoughts?
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