Myself and my boyfriend live right next to 2 of his friends, who are also a couple. They only moved near us quite recently,and I didn't really know them well before that as we never spent a lot of time together.
The girl said some quite mean stuff about my looks etc. behind my back a couple of years ago, and my boyfriend had always told me that she was very bitchy, falling out with people etc. so I admit I was a little scared about seeing her more often.
So far though to my face she's been pretty friendly and giving me compliments etc. and invited us both to their place etc. so I was relieved really after my initial fears. I have felt like I'm getting to know her more and that I can forget the stuff in the past. She was also nice to me when one of my relatives passed away and I cannot fault her for these things.
However, it's just a few things that she's been saying behind my back to my boyfriend, and some other stuff she's done that have concerned me.
My boyfriend and her sometimes hang out alone, as they're also good friends, and if they're the only ones at home, for example.
She tends to discuss her relationship with her boyfriend with my boyfriend, and apparently she asks my boyfriend behind my back if I'm jealous, who/what I'm jealous of, how I react to this and that, and other stuff about our relationship.
I'm not happy at being discussed like that behind my back and I don't see why she has to know. I wouldn't dream of asking her boyfriend stuff like that about her, and I think if she's got stuff to say/ask, then she should say it to my face.
Her and her boyfriend have also said a couple of times to my boyfriend behind my back that I am shy (btw they all speak a different language to me and I am not yet fluent in it, but I live in their country). I felt like I had been trying my best though, asking questions, making jokes etc.
However, she said to my boyfriend that she doesn't really know me and she's 'scared' to ask me stuff, even though I've asked her stuff about her, and I find it a little contradictory because she asked me about my religious beliefs after 5 minutes of being with them (figuratively speaking)
Also, she always seems to be asking us to borrow stuff, and just calls my boyfriend all the time when she wants something. Once or twice, she's asked us what we're having for dinner and then asked if we want to cook it at their place (basically so that we can cook dinner for them too)
She asked my boyfriend if he was free for the afternoon, then when he said yes, told him that she was coming over in 10 minutes. Just stuff like that. Her boyfriend thankfully is very polite and always checks if it's ok.
Should I say something to her? Or am I over-reacting? I just find her two-faced and a bit of a user, but we have to live next to them so I don't want any conflict.
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