Right, first off, I don't want to end my relationship, I merely seek advice and if anyone has gradually managed to gain a compromise in their own relationship.
I won't bore with too many details.. then again, bullet points aren't a strength of mine. However, I shall try.
- I am 24, he is 22 (he acts older).
- I've spoken to my closet friend, who went through a similar ordeal, he said seek more opinions, so here I am.
- My partner doesn't have any intention of getting a social life (fair enough, if anything, it's nice to not meet a "jack the lad").
-I'm not a social butterfly, but I have 3 close friends (2 are actually a gay couple), whom I rarely get to see nowadays due to his lack of social life.
- He's very insecure, to a point where despite lack of admitting, dislikes me having ANY time away from him.
- I have approached conversation, where I may ask to see my friend//friends without his presence, he gets upset and asks what he's suppose to do, I give up.
- His previous relationship ended with his ex apparently feeling neglected (he went to see his brother going through a divorce 2/3 times a month.. me... I'd call that a necessary thing to do but hey).
- Any indication that I'm worrying about our future in his eyes, means I'm irrational or weak.
Now, I will get him as involved in my life as possible, my parents love him, my friends do, my other family members do... I love him, I want this to work, I don't have any qualms other than the actual battle it takes to explain why I like to see my friends.. he even goes as far as to ask what they have that I don't.... I see these friends once a month maybe if I'm lucky.. He feels I don;t love him or need him if I want friends.
This is the first relationship I've been in since I was 20. He is an amazing man, he's loving, dotes on me and makes it clear how I'm his 'everything'. however seems to think I don't care as much or can be relied on if I ever want to see my friends.
I want to know if anyone has gone through something similar, if it ended badly or if it was well fought for.. It took me 4 years to meet someone after an ex who frankly mentally abused me and I see myself making a life with this guy, a break up is the last option.
He chooses not to see friends to be with me, which means I am a bad person if I may not do the same..... when it's not like that.
Help...
I told you bullet points weren't a strength of mine.
Put the internet to work for you.
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