I know it's been awhile since I have posted, and if you want some background info see my thread titled "Am I being a bad mother?". To put it short I am fairly newly married to a younger man that is the most amazing supportive man I have known, I am also 6 months pregnant.
Anyway, as in my other thread my daughter who is now 23 had a huge issue with it with him being closer to her age at 28 then me at 44, she was living with a roommate before but got kicked out due to partying and bad behavior and eventually a guy friend of hers (just a platonic one) let her move in with him, well, she messed that up to and he kicked her out after 3 months!
I eventually agreed to let her move in with me on the conditions that she be respectful of me and especially my husband regardless of how she feels about the situation, help around with chores and get a job and help with bills.
Well she has hardly done any of that. She has applied at some jobs but refuses to apply at fast food places because she thinks they're "beneath her" and says she flat out refuses to work fast food. Along with that she's been real messy and doesn't clean up after herself.
Last month I was out of town on a business trip and my husband called me saying when he got back from work (he works late hours) the house was a mess, she had a lot of friends over and had a party omg. When he told her to start cleaning up she just told him to do it and left the house.
Well, two days ago I was in the kitchen and she started bad mouthing my husband and when he asked her if she could just clean up a mess she made she told him to "f off!" OMG. I HAD HAD IT!
I told her gather basic supplies we are going on a trip, she argued but finally got her stuff together and I drove her to the local homeless shelter. I pulled up and told her to get out, she thought it was a joke at first but I told her I love her but I can't handle her or her attitude anymore and I hope she grows up. She got out and slammed the car door.
When I got home I was crying my eyes out, being pregnant sure doesn't help. My hubby comforted me and made me feel less bad about what I did. I still feel bad, but I am at my wit's end! My daughter has always been a difficult child but I think quite literally being forced to hit rock bottom may be what she needs. Some here may say I am being a terrible mother, but I didn't know what else to do.
Sorry if this is long. I just hope you don't think too badly of me. We have a baby on the way and I can't deal with my daughter right now and all the stress she brings.
Anyway, I do love my daughter but what else can I do? Thanks for listening.
Anyway, as in my other thread my daughter who is now 23 had a huge issue with it with him being closer to her age at 28 then me at 44, she was living with a roommate before but got kicked out due to partying and bad behavior and eventually a guy friend of hers (just a platonic one) let her move in with him, well, she messed that up to and he kicked her out after 3 months!
I eventually agreed to let her move in with me on the conditions that she be respectful of me and especially my husband regardless of how she feels about the situation, help around with chores and get a job and help with bills.
Well she has hardly done any of that. She has applied at some jobs but refuses to apply at fast food places because she thinks they're "beneath her" and says she flat out refuses to work fast food. Along with that she's been real messy and doesn't clean up after herself.
Last month I was out of town on a business trip and my husband called me saying when he got back from work (he works late hours) the house was a mess, she had a lot of friends over and had a party omg. When he told her to start cleaning up she just told him to do it and left the house.
Well, two days ago I was in the kitchen and she started bad mouthing my husband and when he asked her if she could just clean up a mess she made she told him to "f off!" OMG. I HAD HAD IT!
I told her gather basic supplies we are going on a trip, she argued but finally got her stuff together and I drove her to the local homeless shelter. I pulled up and told her to get out, she thought it was a joke at first but I told her I love her but I can't handle her or her attitude anymore and I hope she grows up. She got out and slammed the car door.
When I got home I was crying my eyes out, being pregnant sure doesn't help. My hubby comforted me and made me feel less bad about what I did. I still feel bad, but I am at my wit's end! My daughter has always been a difficult child but I think quite literally being forced to hit rock bottom may be what she needs. Some here may say I am being a terrible mother, but I didn't know what else to do.
Sorry if this is long. I just hope you don't think too badly of me. We have a baby on the way and I can't deal with my daughter right now and all the stress she brings.
Anyway, I do love my daughter but what else can I do? Thanks for listening.
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